Do nurseries and the school system own our children? My sis put her 2 year old son into nursery and wanted to pick him up early and the nursery wouldnt allow her :/

Her daughter whose in reception gets off at 3, her son at 4:30, she wanted to pick her son up at 3 so she wouldnt have to drive back at 4:30 and the nursery told her she couldnt do that and her son HAD to stay until 4:30. When she complained they said it was illegal for her to do that!? Is this right?

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If its an every day thing they may say they wont facilitate it, but they cant like hold the kid hostage

Absolutely not, you can pick up, drop off your child to nursery within the hours they supposed to be there.

Is she using funded hours? Nurseries can find themselves in trouble if 15/30 hours are being claimed for a child that is consistently doing less than that. But still they shouldn’t of refused for her to pick her child up

If she is using the hours which have been funded by taxpayers then the nursery can get into trouble if the hours are regularly not used.

The thing is if every parent did this it could disrupt the other kids. My nursery is absolutely fine with it as one off events but some of the kids get upset when others leave- why multiply that situation by having others arrive/leave whenever they want on a daily basis? Ours has a system where they have workers allocated with the time to hand over with one in the corridor with the kids leaving and enough coverage in the room. If one had to go out, then another 5 mins later, and the parent picking up easily had a lot to talk about, you could risk leaving the room understaffed. They're a business at the end of the day so if they decide they need set hours to make things run smoothly then imo that's totally reasonable.

He's 2 years old she can pick him up and drop him off when she wants..... fuck that I'd be going into that nursery and taking my son

in our community

My 12m won’t settle at nursery and I don’t know what to do.

I have been trying to start my daughter at nursery for 2 months now and she just screams and screams until they inevitably call me back to get her. We have been doing a settlement for 2 months where I walk out the room for 1 hour and come back and get her. She screams so intently it actually sounds like she is in pain. They staff will usually call me back in before the hour is up because she is just inconsolable. I am at a loss at what to do now. I assumed this would go away in time but it’s not got better, if anything it’s gotten worse! Her dad has also tried to drop her to see if it helped but she was the same with him. When I am in the room she plays happily and is actually very confident and social. Has anyone else had this problem and did it eventually resolve itself? I’m at the point where I don’t know if I can keep putting her in.

Parents in law dirty habits

I feel really bad even thinking about it, but I’m really struggling with the idea of my parents in law taking care of our baby.

I adore my husband, and his parents are always super nice to me. However, I have always struggled with their cleaning and hygiene habits. For example, their toilet is often very dirty, they lick the spoons they use while cooking, their fridge contains items that have been there for 20 years, their clothes are often dirty, and they spit while speaking and eating.

I’m really worried about raising this concern with my husband because I’m afraid it could become a serious issue within our family. Unfortunately, my own parents live in America( I trust them 100% to take care of our baby).

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?

MILs

I keep seeing posts about MILs (rarely positive)
How they are horrible and nasty some are, and then how annoying and over the top the rest are… and I honestly I get it, some mother in laws aren’t angels 😅
But I’m terrified that one day some woman will think that way about me! 😂

Just me?🥲 #boymum

Anyone else feel like a single mother?

My baby is almost 14 weeks, my husband works full time and I love him so much but I just feel so alone.

He works 9-5, 5 days a week and is tired when he comes home so he has a nap, this means I look after baby 24 hours a day, he might do a bottle or 2, and a nappy change or 2 but I do everything 99% of the time. I have tried to get him to help more but this is what I signed up for being a SAHM😩

I love our girl so much and I love him so much too but I feel like I’m doing it all on my own and can’t keep having the same conversation over and over asking for him to do more to be told he’s so tired! I’m tired too😩 I feel like I’m a single mum and at this point I feel like I wouldn’t even notice a difference doing it completely alone! But I can’t leave because I love him so much!

I do all of the night feeds and then the day so I have her from 12pm all the way through until 6pm and even after that I still lay with her, entertain her, feed and change her.

I just don’t know what else to do aside from rant here!

Am I being wrong ?

Long story short, when I got pregnant I had a talk with my fiancé that he would stop getting drunk and smoking. He promised that he would never do that ever again . Baby is 10 months now and he broke this promise already 100 times . And the worst part is that he is just lying looking directly into my eyes saying I did not smoke ( also i came home today after walking with our baby and he finished the beer alone at home wtf middle of the day ) . And he is always telling me I’m overreacting and it’s not that serious. But somehow when we were for 2 months with his parents he did not want to smoke or drink . Like why should I get this version of him?
Please do not leave comments like leave him etc it’s impossible now !