Can I have a rant please?

IS THAT THE ONLY ISSUE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP??
WEAPONIZED INCOMPETENCE IS SO ANNOYING TO DEAL WITH

I’m shocked that he is making you take care of twins by yourself. He does nothing???

Hi, I have a 3 yr old and 9 month old twins and had a very similar situation to you. I kicked my partner out when the twins were 7 weeks old and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. If he is playing his PlayStation while letting you struggle with twins, then there is not much to salvage I’m afraid.

We were together nearly 8 years and I’m glad it wasn’t 9. 16 years is a long time but it’s not worth spending any longer with someone who is not treating you right.

And twins are HARD WORK, no one really understands how difficult they are unless you have them yourself. And you’re probably too stressed and tired to even enjoy spending time with them, those are memories and lovely moments he is taking away from you with his his selfishness. You are already rearing three kids essentially alone, so leaving will make things easier (he sounds like a fourth child tbh).

The choice is yours, but I hope you leave him. I feel like I’ve gotten a new lease on life after getting out.

Salvage it and don’t have more kids, focus on the ones you have and give them the very best… You can be in a relationship and be selfish with yourself.. Lots of men all over the world still believe a child is for the mom alone…

yes you can rant. i believe that it’s absolutely unfair. faced the same struggles. some men want woman to take all the childcare on their backs. it’s unfair for woman to have no help bc her nature is nurturing. 🫩 it’s unfair.