How would you feel?

our 3 old was crying in hysterics at night time, I gave him calpol I tried to soothe him I stood up to comfort him and laid down and tried to make him sleep, this was going on for hours it seemed but must have been 20/30 minutes but nothing I was doing was working, he wanted his dad. When my husband walked in after hearing him scream at that point I was laying down with our son and had given up I was hoping he’d just cry to sleep even when I was patting him he hated it.

My husband came in and was furious he blurted out and screamed at me that I can’t do anything and that he regrets marrying me, he regrets having children (we’ve been married 8 years and 2 kids) I’ve always had doubts about his sincerity because I feel insecure and he doesn’t help that. And this was like a knife to my heart. Or the final nail to the coffin.

We haven’t spoken since Friday night, his mum has been calling me because he went round to hers saying he wants me to leave and to kick me out, to call my parents to pick me and the kids up. She came over today to “sort it”. She sat us down and made us say what is wrong and he just said he said what he wanted to say in the car to her, I said well I wasn’t in the car to know what you said?! He then said that I am mean to the kids, I speak harshly to them and I’m annoyed with them and that he doesn’t like that I don’t always cook or clean 🙃

Ive also been to the doctors recently I have extremely low iron and vitamin d so my motivation is lost and my body is always tired.

Anyways she mediated this “meeting” and I actually stopped giving too much info because I thought wtf am i doing and just agreed to her big lectures on husband / wife compromises. My husand agreed that looking after kids is hard and that he won’t be so harsh with me. He left after that to go to work and picked up the lunch box I made for him. He turned and tried to smile and give me a gesture that we normally do like everything is okay now.

I just don’t know how to feel about this. Shall I just carry on as normal and forget this happened? Or shall i hold the grudge? Shall I leave ? Shall I see this as he regrets what he said on Friday and thought it was a big deal that’s why he had to get his mum involved to save the day?

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Nah I don't think I could get over that. I think I'd want to split due to him being an arsehole.

Do not leave, do not "abandon" that house. It does matter in a separation if you do. Consult a lawyer and make a plan if you can.
You can make a plan to leave the relationship, but I wouldn't act on anything like moving out of the house until papers were filed.

Sit down and think (you don't have to answer any of these here).....how is the relationship overall? Does he do his part or does he expect you to handle more than your share? Do you feel he builds you up, years you down, or it's neutral?
Is there truth to what he says? Are you mean to the kids, is there something that triggers this?
Are you getting enough support? Do you have time away from the kids?
Him running to his mom and her stepping in is yuck to me. Is he a Mama's boy?

I think there is a chance you could work through it, but it will take 100% open and honest conversation.
Literal experts say it is best for your mental health to walk away if your baby is crying and you are overwhelmed. If they're not in danger, they are fine to cry for a bit. Yelling at their other parent in front of them? Not recommended.

He may also be struggling and not realize. Some guys are dense and need a wake up call.

Odd tho to complain about how you treat the kiddos but wants you AND them gone. That's the biggest red flag for me personally at the moment.

But honestly, you could both be overwhelmed he is just handling it very poorly.

I said stay mad and leave. Leave the relationship but consult a lawyer before you do anything else.

I would never be able to look at my partner the same or ever trust him with my heart again if he said that shit to me.

Then he refused to speak to you for days and involved his mother. No fucking way.

I am sorry you are dealing with this crap and that he is a prick.

I do have a question; why did he listen to your kiddo screaming for HALF AN HOUR before he bothered to come see if kiddo was ok and if you needed help? Or was he not home?

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Can I have a rant please?

Basically I've been with my partner for 16 years, we've got a 6 year old and now have 4 month old twins. When my oldest was born he hardly helped out at all, only when he started getting older and now its been the same with my twins. I honestly thought it would be different this time around, but I've been doing everything with my twins, all the feeds, nappy changes, taking them out and going to baby classes things like that. I ask him for help but he will make us excuses like ' they will fall asleep on me' ' my back hurts' or he will be in the middle of playing his game and will say ' i can't pause it'

We recently had an argument and haven't spoken properly since which is making things alot worse.
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I’m so overthinking it!

My little boy is almost 7 months and we started weaning slightly early, so he’s probably been eating now for just over a month! We’ve tried to make it so he eats as similarly to us as possible - for example at the start he ate the raw/basic ingredients of our meals like if we had fajitas he’d have avocado and plain roasted versions of the veg. Now he’s moved on to no salt versions of what we eat and is loving it!
Tomorrow, I’m making veggie fish tacos but I make them with fake fish fingers lol, on Yuka they score 75/100 and have less than 1g of salt (only just) but obviously they are UPF, would you give it?? We eat very little food that we don’t make from scratch so it would really be a one off. I have tofu in as a back up so it still looks like our food(ish), I feel like I’m going crazy and I’m so worried of him not ending up with a good relationship with food 🫣
I’ve added a picture of his lil meal from tonight which was all from scratch just to make me feel better 😂