My husband hates me.

I don’t want to even get into it, but the only time he’s ever been nice to me is when i’ve been pregnant, and I pour everything I have into my kids. I know we all have our cross to bear in life, but my crime is that I wasn’t complicit to his pill problem, and it caused a lot of issues with CPS, which I unintentionally got involved when I reached out for help. His mom hates me. CPS thinks his mom is a toxic enabler. They deemed me the only competent care giver. Now they’ve closed the case, and I don’t have them to protect me anymore, and even if i leave, i still have to deal with these people for the rest of my life. honestly I really just wish him happiness and hope he finds somebody he actually loves and respects and respectfully lets me move on with my life. I just want to start my own business which i’m currently working on, and i want to take care of my parents and keep them out of the nursing home for as long as possible. I just want my parents. i want my mom. My dad who is my biggest support is dying. It kills me to know i won’t have my kids all the time. My husband just tells me how I’m not a good wife. I don’t understand why he’s even still with me.

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Girl life is too short, leave him.

Hun leave he doesnt deserve you or those kids xx

Men like this don’t end things with you, they just make your life miserable until you leave them so they can play the victim and get sympathy to lure in their next victim.

Leave him please

I am so sorry. The things that come out of his mouth are manipulative to provoke a certain response from you and fill your head with a negative narrative in hopes that you will start to believe it, thus, allowing him to control you, the house and your lives together.
Can you call your case manager at cps to reopen the file or have a friend make a an anonymous report and you can be “surprised” when they show up?
Start documenting everything he says, does or fails to do. If his pills are left out, snap a couple photos and save them in a hidden folder on your phone until you are ready to make your move.
Girl, screw his mom. She sounds terrible too who will always see her son as “ a perfect son”. There is no changing her so you need to try to emotionally start to detach from them for your own sanity.
I am so sorry to hear about your dad. That’s never easy especially when you have other stress in your life. Spend as much time with your parents as you can.

You’ll have to deal with these people for the rest of your life anyway since this is the man you chose to make children with. Either you go ahead and divorce him, or commit to not pouring everything you have into the kids and pour some into him. You obviously resent him- just let him go and move on. Your kids can undoubtedly feel the awful energy between you two.

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