Am I being over sensitive
Last year I had my first baby who after I became seriously ill was delivered 2 months early. When I finished at work that was it. I got a very basic card in the post and a bouquet of flowers then heard nothing off of the company for the entire year I was off. This week a colleague is leaving to start her maternity leave. A group of people have organised a hamper for her and baby asking for monetary contributions. SO much has been bought and who knows how much money has been spent. Gift cards for coffees out, clothes for baby, bath products for mum and baby etc. I was asked to sign a card and it was full of so many messages telling her what an amazing and great mummy she will be, words I’ve never heard. I’m 16 weeks with our 2nd and know that when I leave again it will be just like last time. No recognition and a simple card in the post as that’s company policy. I’m sat at my desk feeling so stung and hurt by this. It’s a lovely gesture being done but surely if it’s because they’re friends it’s something that should have been done privately and away from work. Maybe I’m a rubbish mum and no one actually cares as no one really seems to care at all especially during a 2nd pregnancy
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It all depends on the type of relationships you’ve with your colleague. Are you close with any of them? Are you close outside work? When I left for MAT LEAVE my colleague went above and beyond for me. When another colleague left they didn’t bother to do anything cause she keeps herself to herself. Dont socialise with the group. Have zero interest on getting to know anyone. She comes do her work and leave. I don’t think it has anything to do with you being a bad mum or good mom. That’s not for them to judge.
I didn’t get anything when I left didn’t even get a good bye I wouldn’t be surprised if my husband gets a hamper or a card or anything like that but for me the actual one that’s actually pregnant didn’t receive anything but the year before we all organised a hamper for one of my colleagues that was going on maternity leave 😔 it doesn’t help that we had like a whole management change weeks before me going on maternity leave
Sounds like the organiser and her are friends outside of work. Don't take it personally. Most people don't get all that. I'm sure you have your own friends and family who made you feel special? X
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Last year I had my first baby who after I became seriously ill was delivered 2 months early. When I finished at work that was it. I got a very basic card in the post and a bouquet of flowers then heard nothing off of the company for the entire year I was off. This week a colleague is leaving to start her maternity leave. A group of people have organised a hamper for her and baby asking for monetary contributions. SO much has been bought and who knows how much money has been spent. Gift cards for coffees out, clothes for baby, bath products for mum and baby etc. I was asked to sign a card and it was full of so many messages telling her what an amazing and great mummy she will be, words I’ve never heard. I’m 16 weeks with our 2nd and know that when I leave again it will be just like last time. No recognition and a simple card in the post as that’s company policy. I’m sat at my desk feeling so stung and hurt by this. It’s a lovely gesture being done but surely if it’s because they’re friends it’s something that should have been done privately and away from work. Maybe I’m a rubbish mum and no one actually cares as no one really seems to care at all especially during a 2nd pregnancy
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