3 years old, never been to a setting - extremely distressed & upset! Is this normal? How long till it last?

My son has never been to a setting before but aged 3 now I’ve sent him to a forest school nursery. But he’s screaming crying every morning mummy please don’t leave me here I don’t know anyone Etc. I try to reassure him but he’s unconsolable. He’s managing 45 mins to 1 hour a day at the minute. Does it get easier?

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If he doesnt need to be there then dont force it - look to build his confidence in other ways, groups etc then try again

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He'll get used to it, he's never going to know anyone if he never stays....
Could you speak to the practitioner? Is she making sure he's busy and distracted? Could she have him help with a little job when he gets there?

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3 years old, never been to a setting - extremely distressed & upset! Is this normal? How long till it last?

My son has never been to a setting before but aged 3 now I’ve sent him to a forest school nursery. But he’s screaming crying every morning mummy please don’t leave me here I don’t know anyone Etc. I try to reassure him but he’s unconsolable. He’s managing 45 mins to 1 hour a day at the minute. Does it get easier?

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