Going out to see friends?

How else is he supposed to learn if he doesn’t do it?

He needs to learn. Just explain it to him.

My partner would do 2x bedtimes now, but when baby was 2months old I don’t think he would have been able to but mainly due to me breastfeeding. If baby is bottle fed and all can be managed I think partner can handle it, but also think it could be intimidating the first time. But then once they do it will be easier

I just go ahead and go, he’ll make it and feel comfortable before he knows it lol.

I meant to vote go after bedtime but just at the start. Let him take the lead in putting the kids to bed, but be there as moral support for the kids. Then when the kids are comfortable then I’ll go before or after depending on my plans.

wish I had someone to help me everyday. Its called learn as you go 🤣😅

How does he think you do bedtime with two when he's not there? He needs to just crack on and sort it like you likely have to when you're on your own with them🤷‍♀️🫠 men honestly

If he doesn't know how to do it he can learn how to do it...

Yeah, most women aren't quite ready for a newborn and the demands and schedule that entails but you learn as you go my man. Are they alive? Are they unharmed? Then it went fine. It won't go smoothly the first time, but you learn and get the groove of things.

Thanks ladies, will defo be sharing the poll results with him! I done my first solo dual bedtime tonight so hopefully that’ll give him a boost of confidence

We both always make sure to be home by bedtime. Only have not followed this rule a handful of times. It cuts things short but my kids are very hard to put to sleep and it’s hard to do alone. He has done it alone a few times successfully. But they just won’t let me leave them. So when I do it it’s a disaster.

Neither of us like it, so we do our best to be home to help

Tbh I would just tell him that sucks. He wanted these kids he gets to figure this out the exact same way I did: trial and error. No one teaches women what to do anymore, we ask people or we ask the internet. He is also capable of doing those. One night a month? He can handle it 🙄

Take the 2 month old with you???