I dont know how to approach this... Info below

So I live with my sister and her bf. this is not our ideal situation, you might have seen other posts I made about this living situation. If you haven't just know that this is a temporary living situation but I do have to live here for another year. That being said, in the past they have horses dishes in their room. I try to give them grace because I'm 25, but when I was 17 living with my family I did the same thing. The thing is they are both 30+. So the fact that they are both stuck in this teenage mentality is actually infuriating especially when I have to do the dishes. Usually they will bring the dishes out and do them themselves but lately I think they are testing limits. My sister said "the dish washer was full and I had accidentally been hoarding forks so I just put them in the sink." That was maybe a week ago, I let it go cause it was just some forks. Now I'm caught up on dishes and I'm realizing we're low on plates and bowls. So now I'm irritated again. I don't know how to approach this. I think it is partially my fault as I'm dealing with 2 kids and the house by myself everyday, I typically end up leaving the dirty dishes for myself to do in the morning. So I do need to be better about that but I feel like they need to take some accountability because there's a lot of other times they can do their dishes. My sister just got fired for absences and she still hasn't come out to do her dishes. I need to be nice but I don't know how to approach this.

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There’s nothing wrong with expecting others to pull their weight. It’s not fair all the dishes end up your problem. 2 other adults have meals there too.

Bring it up and be respectful, & only if they get offended will you know the type of people you’re dealing with. There is nothing about asking them to do dishes that is offensive. It’s offensive you even have to confront it.

Sounds similar to my situation. I just found a cup full of forks up in my mil’s room. It’s frustrating.

I would be petty and get my own dishes and cutlery that they can't use so my stuff never runs short.
If they want to live in a pigsty, let them.

If your not paying rent I wouldn't start an argument over dishes because that could be thrown in your face. I'm a SAHM living with my mom so most of the cleaning i do since I dont pay bills. But if your contributing to bills and cleaning I would definitely say something

Separate dishes and hide them (in your room for example) if you need to. Try to wash and put away all your stuff immediately so it’s not laying around and you always know where your stuff is.
Buy a pack of disposable plates and cutlery for emergencies

If you’re paying more than them, it’s time to put that toward your own. That’s too much stress.

Personally I am a Big fan of household group chats being a thing when in any type of roommate situation. 🤷‍♀️ easy communication that everybody who lives in the home can see & respond to.

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I don't consider this sensitive topic but I toggled it on anyway just in case

My son woke up in the morning and usually take off his diaper wipe him down and put on his underwear

Yesterday morning he said look Mommy my penis is big because he had a morning erection I guess is what it was

And I said yes your body changes throughout the day and that's good noticing. Your body is healthy and strong

IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I'M SUPPOSED TO SAY?!!!! LOL.

I am a single mom and sometimes I cry thinking I have to do it all by myself.. I have no idea where to bring this topic to

I'm worried and afraid that when the time comes I won't have the right perspective to respond like I'm supposed to

I'm open to ideas please or just a mindset for this kind of thing. I think I did okay but I don't always know what to say

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I get called out by another parent asking why not. I say we don't do sugar or salt until after 2. They think this is really really weird.

Am I weird? I thought this was a national guideline? (UK)
I'm just trying to protect my sons current and future health, eating habits and his teeth.

I see babies eating all sorts of rubbish, sugary, processed foods and sugary drinks and it boils my blood. I never say anything though of course.

Do you think I'm weird for wanting my son to only eat clean healthy foods until 2 years old?

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I am losing my mind literally in tears because my little girl is chronically constipated
She screams, sweats & shakes every three days to get her poo out
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& anything that will help

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