Silent miscarriage
I am 40. Today I had a 13w dating scan for the first time for our “surprise” baby just to find out that the baby doesn’t have a heartbeat, has lots of nuchal fluids around his neck, down to his spine and around his heart.
My husband is sad, but he went to work (night shift). We are new to this town and I haven’t made any friends yet… my family doesn’t know I was even pregnant… my almost 2 yo little one is unwell with a high fever next to me. I feel so sad and so alone. My body is not showing any signs of miscarriage. I still have nausea and “night sickness”. I just don’t know what to do with myself…
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Im so sorry youre going through this. I had the same last May. We went to our 12 week scan to find no heartbeat. Had to go back 2 weeks later to confirm then went with the medication route to help my body clear it. Let yourself grieve, and feel free to give me a message if you just want to talk to somebody!
Very sorry for your loss ❤. I had the same with a 7 week scan and I was in shock. I had a D&C to get it over with and the hospital invited us for a mini funeral with the other parents. 2 months later I got pregnant again and I'm now 28 weeks. But still haven't forgotten the other little one we lost at Christmas. It's OK to cry and feel sad. Take your time. Xx
If you have access to counselling in your area then it definitely helps to talk about it ❤️
Sorry for your loss. Maybe look into Tommy's support when you feel well enough. Sending love for the coming days 💕
I'm so sorry. I've been there. It sucks. I'm sorry for your loss, sending tonnes of love your way. X
I've been there. I can't offer anything that will make it easier. But let yourself cry, and feel all the emotions as they come. I felt at peace with it all once I knew the process and had my d&c. But i cried for 3 weeks , I felt awful and was so lucky to have a supportive partner
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Silent miscarriage
I am 40. Today I had a 13w dating scan for the first time for our “surprise” baby just to find out that the baby doesn’t have a heartbeat, has lots of nuchal fluids around his neck, down to his spine and around his heart.
My husband is sad, but he went to work (night shift). We are new to this town and I haven’t made any friends yet… my family doesn’t know I was even pregnant… my almost 2 yo little one is unwell with a high fever next to me. I feel so sad and so alone. My body is not showing any signs of miscarriage. I still have nausea and “night sickness”. I just don’t know what to do with myself…
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