I'm just sat here crying and need to vent

I have a cold, everyone in the house has had it. Our 3 year old caught it from nursery, quickly passed it on to our 5 month old and my husband. Somehow I managed to avoid it, I looked after everyone, 3yo was off nursery, sleepless nights with baby as she couldn't breathe in her bassinet so spent hours sleeping up on my chest through the night, so I had to be awake to let her sleep.
Now everyone is better and it has hit me like a ton of bricks. My eyes and nose won't stop running, my throat feels like I've swallowed shards of glass, and I'm still the one who got up at 6am with the kids, got both of them ready, took my son to nursery, ran errands, and then tonight I'm thinking finally when my 3yo goes to bed, I can go to bed too and my husband can watch the baby. Nope, he takes 3yo up to bed at 6. Usually he's asleep by 6.30. 7pm goes by and I'm thinking what is taking so long.. 7.15, 7.30pm... I finally go upstairs to check and my husband has fallen asleep in the bed with our son, and I can't risk waking our son. I tried getting my husband to wake but he was zonked out. So now I'm just sat here, I feel so utterly drained and in pain and all I want is to sleep and I'm just upset and mad that I'm always the one putting everyone first and making sure everyone has what they need and looking after everyone else and now I'm just sat here, baby crying, I'm crying, I just want a break for one evening.
Yes I should've taken 3yo to bed and then maybe it would've worked out better but my husband never falls asleep, I dunno why he did tonight because he's feeling better and slept in this morning.

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You need to express this to him. Thats so unfair on you

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You need to tell him to step up. You’re a team and sometimes one person has to take on the load.

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Kick him, hand over baby and go to bed.

I coughed the other day, once, my OH is now dying of a cold, coughing, wrapped up in a blanket, downing cough medicine.
It's just not fair!

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