Booked holiday in school time..

So we've booked a holiday in November which is in school time from Mon-Fri! Has anyone else booked a holiday during school? Do I just email the school to make them aware? What happened? 🫣

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Dads helping

My partner when he does help is an amazing dad.
However… there’s always been an issue with him helping me with our daughter. He has no initiative if I don’t tell him what to do he doesn’t do it. Or if don’t explain in great detail what needs doing it will be done wrong. For example if I say can you please put the clothes in the wash, he will literally put them in the washing machine and do nothing else.
Which I’ve shown him how to do uncountable times. Shock horror he’s only ever lived at his mums before moving in with me 3 years ago where his mum delivered meals and washing to his door. So as you can imagine it’s been a long 3 years trying to help him learn to cook clean and fend for himself. Which is mum had a lot to say about.

Back to the point, I will be standing struggling with our daughter who is 8 months old going through sleep regression she’s been in her own room a week isn’t having it at all just wants to sleep on me, even nap times have become contact naps again. And I will say can you please help me. And he will stand there and ask me what I want him to do. I don’t even know myself if I did know what would help her sleep id do it myself I just mean can I have 10 minutes to re coop.
I’m getting about 3 hours sleep a night. She doesn’t nap long in the day so I can’t make up for it then. I also need to keep on top of the house as when I don’t he threatens to get his mum to come clean it or get cleaners…

I honestly have such bad postpartum rage but only with him, I just hate him at the moment. Which I’ve told him, is his own fault for not supporting me at all. And all is he says is I work I work I work. Yes he does. 8-4. He’s home at 4:30 he’s also self employed and spends half his day sending me fucking TikTok’s. I was meant to stay off work for a year to enjoy time with our daughter as I struggled to conceive I don’t know if I can again but I’m honestly considering just going back to work now and trying to get my daughter in nursery a few days a week sooner so then it removes any excuses from him. Even the weekends I get no relief as all he says is she wants you. After trying to settle her for a minute. Of course she wants me I’m the default parent. But in order to keep my patience I’m sure as most mums do after an hour of continuous screaming I need 5 minutes to just stare at a wall re coop and go again. But no that is too much to ask.
I know I’m not the only one who’s experienced this so what on earth do you do.

Potty training

In the process of starting to potty train my little on. Just wanted to ask mama's which pottys you would recommend?

How do you talk about periods?

My little girl is three and she will often follow me into the toilet so when I'm on my period she sees it and it's not something I hide from her and I know she's curious about what it is but I don't quite know how to address it...

Like we're very honest and open about things and we use the correct anatomical names for body parts etc and I want to be honest and open with her about this because it will happen to her one day... But I'm having a hard time understanding how to do it at the right level for her that will help her understand but also not scare her? Cause if I say "it's blood and it will happen one day to you to" - to a three year old surely that is absolutely terrifying 😂

Any tips?

Am I being too unreasonable?

I came out of hospital on Tuesday night after having surgery for an ectopic pregnancy.
I am in pain and haven't left the house apart from to pick my daughter up from nursery last night. I don't feel confident driving yet so my partner drove. Last night before we left for nursery we found he had a flat tyre. I said to just use my car until the tyre gets fixed today.
He needs to go to his friends to collect the tire then fit it. He's asked to go to his friends as soon as we've dropped our daughter off at nursery but I just want to come home. I've tried to explain I'm not in the mood to see people, sit in peoples company and I just want to go home to rest but he's saying I'm being unreasonable and it'll only take 20 minutes. I've asked if he can just drop me off home and he can go to his mates but he's not happy.
Am I being unreasonable?

Has anyone ever had to leave a baby and toddler group because of their child's behaviour?

I think my 2 year old son was just tired today but he was rolling around, throwing things, running off and it became so stressful that I just left the group.
Felt like quite a bad parent even though he's usually fine and enjoys it.

I'm just annoyed, I was late once to nursery pick up and was made to feel so guilty

I'm just needing to vent honestly as I've had such a shitty morning.

My son finishes nursery at 11:45am every day, but they like parents to pick up between 11:35-40. I am there to pick him up on time every single day without.

I also have a baby, who I need to take with me to pick up.

Today as I was leaving I was literally picking her up to put her in the the pram and she done a massive poo. I quickly put her down on her mat and changed her, and then left. It took me a few minutes but I still managed to arrive for 11:45. I know this is technically 'late' for their preferred pick up times but I figured they'd understand a few minutes.

I buzz to get in and as the lady opens the door for me I go to apologise for being a few minutes late but before I even get a chance to get a word out she says "can I just remind you pick up time is 11:40" in such a horrible tone, talking to me like a child. I says sorry and explained it was just typical baby had a dirty nappy as I was trying to leave trying to lighten the mood a little. She then goes on to tell me that all the children who stay til 3 have their lunch at 11:45, so I need to make sure I'm here at 11:40, because now my son is crying because he was told he isn't getting lunch with the other kids. She was laying it on really thick that my son was upset and it was my fault because I was late. She repeated like 3 times that he was *really* upset. I was stood there feeling so small and guilty and thinking wow well you've just spent at least 3 minutes here explaining how bad it is that I was late, turning 5 minutes into 8 minutes but okay... I apologised.

Then she goes to fetch my son, and he comes out smiling and runs over to me for a cuddle. She then comes over with a tissue and starts going on again like "aw he was so upset" and wiping his face even though he wasn't crying? She was like "see I told you mummy was coming" and then she turned back to me and says "I had to keep telling him mummy will be here in 2 minutes, she'll be here in a few minutes, she's just coming" like I'm sorry but I was 5 MINUTES LATE.

I know I was wrong for being late. I apologised several times. I would understand her tone if maybe I was late all the time but I'm never late. Ever. I just left feeling so guilty and embarrassed and needed to vent😔