Feeling lonely

It’s a long one I apologise but if you do read it and can’t give some support I would be really appreciative!
I’m feeling so sad and lonely and just feel like I can’t do anything right . I live with my fiancé and I’m 29 weeks tomorrow. We moved in to our house 2 months ago and I just feel like I’m doing it all myself. I’m always the one to do the cleaning and washing and doing the dishes, cleaning up and cooking and he goes to work comes home and goes on his ps. I don’t have a problem with doing these things as I am the one that currently is at home all the time due to having to come out of work due to it closing but even when I was working it was still only me doing everything.
I’m so grateful that I am able to be at home during this difficult time thanks to him , I don’t want to sound ungrateful.
I think tonight I’m just extremely emotional I tried making tea tonight ( I’m not great at cooking) I made chicken mash roast potatoes and veg for when he got home from work exept the chicken was over done so it was dry and I tried using the ninja to make my mash as we don’t currently have a masher and that turned to slop and I told him I made tea but if you don’t want it is fine we can just get a takeaway as it’s not great . He looked at it and said 10/10 for effort and then started poking and picking at it and then said I put him of it bc I was being so negative. Ouch I was just tryna cover my back from being embarrassed.
Anyways he didn’t eat it I offered to make him something else he asked for cheese on toast and then I said actually can you make it he said no u can do it perfectly and i then asked him to come downstairs for a hug as before he went upstairs he noticed I wasn’t 100% and his reply was have you made my toast .
It feel really Petty when I’m saying it but I just feel so hurt and I feel like I just need to let it out .
He’s currently sleeping whilst I’m feeling sorry for myself on the sofa .
Am I over reacting? Am I just being over emotional.

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Oh girl this is rough:( I’m so sorry you’re going through this!! I think you are completely justified in the way you are feeling honestly I would feel the same if my husband was this way toward me. Let me know if you wanna message separately, I am also 29 weeks xx

Nope. Not overreacting at all. You are a mother now and your emotions are never irrational or petty, it’s your gut, your intuition. You are so kind and are trying your best to create a happy comfortable family environment.

He needs to do more because you deserve more. You’re growing a whole human being, something a man couldn’t even comprehend.

All of this drive you’re feeling now is the protective side of your mum brain wanting to nest.
Keep going, as soon that baby will be your entire world and that’s who you’re really doing all this for.

I hope he realises how blessed he is to have you.

🫂🫂🫂🫂 he could make his own toast. Use this time to rest and not stress yourself or baby out! Unless he's paying 100% of the bills he can pitch in at home. Once baby comes, you'll need a village and if you don't have one, you'll be overwhelmed. Doing our duties is important, but we aren't maids/ servants. We're partners.

Oh gosh this sounds horrible, I'm sorry but he sounds really uncaring/insensitive to your feelings! Has he always been like this? You need to sit down with him and let him know how you're feeling and why, then let him know what you need from him in the relationship. This needs to be ironed out now as it'll only get worse once baby's here otherwise

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