Am I being unreasonable

I think your being reasonable my daughters first christmas she was 9 months and i got her a toy advent calendar as i dont like my kids having too much junk food they get a bit chocolate and crisps with their lunch and i change it between sweet snacks with savoury and healthy snacks daily so they dont constantly want junk food. I understand his point it being his child also but its not controlling the fact youve tried to meet him in the middle and your looking for a middle ground if he gets her a chocolate advent calendar just give her it every now and again my partner bought my daughter one and she got her chocolate every couple of days (2-3 days) but id open the door and take the chocolate out but i preferred the toy one my sons first advent calendar was a large book one so every day he got a new book theres so many choices out there now she isnt gunna understand tradition at her age.

My daughter has never had a chocolate advent calendar and won’t have one this year. I don’t think it’s unreasonable. Her first Christmas we got her a Disney book one and last year she had a rubber duck one

My mum has bought a nativity Velcro advent calendar for my son that will be used every year. When he’s older he can have the standard chocolate calendar too but like… he’s too young to be eating chocolate and he’s certainly too young to understand.

Is he aware of your potential worries about sugar content, dental concerns, possibility of tummy upset and more?
Can you meet in the middle to give baby chocolate once or twice weekly?
Still buy the advent calendar. Either of you can have the chocolate on other days

We bought ours one and just ate the chocolate ourselves, zero need for them to have chocolate at 6 months IMO.

I understand both sides. As someone who's a sucker for tradition, I get really wanting one for her. But also agree she doesnt need chocolate every day. Could you do a non-chocolate one? Or get a chocolate one and you each take turns having chocolate, so shell have a chocolate once every 3 days? Just as a side note, I understand not wanting her to have chocolate everyday, but theyre also only small. I dont think it would do anything in terms of making her have a massive sweet tooth x

You could give her a tiny sliver of the chocolate if you're fine with that

We love the toy and book ones! I think the ELC do a baby one with the happy land chunky figures and a Christmas scene.

Though I’ve always bought one and just ate them myself 🤣

Accidentally pressed unreasonable and can't change it, but no, you're absolutely not being unreasonable. Pretty sure the NHS guidelines say to limit sugar until they are at least 2, giving her chocolate every day at 6 months is a very bad idea and will most likely give her tummy trouble. You've offered a compromise, if he won't meet you halfway then he's the one being unreasonable. You're her mother and what you say goes.

Absolutely not a toy one is so perfect. Chocolate and sugar under two isn't a good thing (no judgement) but there have just been studies connecting sugar under two to altziemers later in life. Plus tooth decay
A 6m old will only start weaning, it's not nutritious at all and for as long as you can hold off sugar do, they will have a lifetime of treats now is not the time!

yeah not unreasonable at all. i get tradition but like if she's 6 months, she's not going to understand the concept of an advent calendar 🤣🫣 plus chocolate/sweets are obviously not recommended at all before the age of 1 and even after that it's recommended to limit it! my baby was 3 months for her first christmas but she will be 15 months this christmas and i still won't be getting her one! she will have plenty of time for advent calendars when she's old enough to understand them lol

I didn’t let mine have chocolate until they were 1, but I also love a tradition - could you get one that you make yourself that you can then use every year and compromise in putting a tiny bit chocolate in like once a week?

I do my own one! Always have! I dont think your being unreasonable

At 6 months she will only just be trying foods, so I really wouldn't give her something so sugary.

I mean he can get one and eat the chocolate?

My kids are 4 and 6 and they still haven't had a chocolate advent calendar. Toys or books advent calendars are great. This year I'm getting my youngest a lego one.

Thank you all honestly I thought I was going crazy and started to doubt myself but you have all put my mind at ease thank you all ! 💗

6 months and eating chocolate?! Huh?!