Fed up!
My child’s father is stressing me out! One minute he’s happy the next he’s having a complete bitch fit🤣 he blames me for his rap career not popping off the way he wanted. Says he gave me 2 kids and he has nothing to show for it. Granted when we met I was in school for music business I worked with KCamp and MoneyBagg Yo and Dolph all before they blew up when they were still establishing themselves I told him I could help him but then I moved from LA being in the club life back home to take care of my dad. Things got hard I wasn’t in the places I needed to be to make his dreams come true and money wasn’t there because we had bills. Covid happened and things really went down but I tried to help him when I had it but like he says my priorities changed…duh we were pregnant, had bills in the middle of a pandemic shit was hard for the world and we could never really gain our feet back under the music thing. Now that we are pregnant again he’s blaming me for his life not being where he wanted but I got what I wanted a family. I’m so tired to where I don’t care if he leaves me or not he don’t pay NO BILLS, he don’t help around the house, but he has a job and does whatever he wants with his money and our son and I are always last on his mind unless it’s a holiday or birthday. I needed to vent because I’m fed up and tired
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i’m sure his “rap career” had nothing to do with you sweetie .. he just wants to blame someone for his failure
Give him hints maybe
Like pack his stuff little at a time not like he can take any stuff from you
Or simply just take care of your child an your self dont spend a penny on him like go out for food but dont bring anything back for him, lock the fridge an if wifi change password tell him to pay for the password etc.
Don't change locks until he moves out bcuz that can be territorial for court tho even if he broke so has to leave on his own
Damn he doesn’t even pay any bills why is he there fr lol
Wow. You should consider yourself and your own boundaries. Has a job but doesnt help with anything is a no no. And he made his choices and has to take ownership. We all know how sex works and potential consequences of those actions. He can still press for it and use his kids as motivation.
If you had helped him with his career, he wouldn't be with you at all. Thank God for exposing him.
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Doing it alone
So I’m currently at the hospital because I’m in labor and about to deliver my baby within the next hour and a half probably and none one’s here.
Well my mom’s on the way to me now but it’ll take a minute for her to come. As for my baby’s dad, nowhere in sight. I told him I was in the hospital and he said he wanted to be there when his son is born but where is he? Who knows.
Am I upset? Definitely. Am I surprised? No not really. I’m only irritated because I know he’s going to blame me for something like he always does and it’s going to be horrible.
But that’s not important, what’s important is that I get to see my baby boy soon with or without him. Sad to say but I can’t control how he reacts so I’m just gonna focus on me and baby.
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Feeling lonely
It’s a long one I apologise but if you do read it and can’t give some support I would be really appreciative!
I’m feeling so sad and lonely and just feel like I can’t do anything right . I live with my fiancé and I’m 29 weeks tomorrow. We moved in to our house 2 months ago and I just feel like I’m doing it all myself. I’m always the one to do the cleaning and washing and doing the dishes, cleaning up and cooking and he goes to work comes home and goes on his ps. I don’t have a problem with doing these things as I am the one that currently is at home all the time due to having to come out of work due to it closing but even when I was working it was still only me doing everything.
I’m so grateful that I am able to be at home during this difficult time thanks to him , I don’t want to sound ungrateful.
I think tonight I’m just extremely emotional I tried making tea tonight ( I’m not great at cooking) I made chicken mash roast potatoes and veg for when he got home from work exept the chicken was over done so it was dry and I tried using the ninja to make my mash as we don’t currently have a masher and that turned to slop and I told him I made tea but if you don’t want it is fine we can just get a takeaway as it’s not great . He looked at it and said 10/10 for effort and then started poking and picking at it and then said I put him of it bc I was being so negative. Ouch I was just tryna cover my back from being embarrassed.
Anyways he didn’t eat it I offered to make him something else he asked for cheese on toast and then I said actually can you make it he said no u can do it perfectly and i then asked him to come downstairs for a hug as before he went upstairs he noticed I wasn’t 100% and his reply was have you made my toast .
It feel really Petty when I’m saying it but I just feel so hurt and I feel like I just need to let it out .
He’s currently sleeping whilst I’m feeling sorry for myself on the sofa .
Am I over reacting? Am I just being over emotional.
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Parenting situation what would you do? Please help!
My son (four) got a dirtbike for his birthday. I told him he could ride it in the backyard. I was watching him and sitting in a chair. He has a helmet he has to wear and he took it off and threw it on the ground hopped back on and started riding it and I told him he needed to stop and put it back on, and he looked at me and smiled and said I do whatever I want and did another lap I had to get in front of his dirtbike and stop it I am pregnant and can’t be dealing with chasing my son down and stopping a dirtbike.
When he got inside, he threw his helmet down we’ve been dealing with some major behavior problems lately, and I’m not quite sure how to deal with them. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m pregnant, but my patience is wearing thin:/ lately he’s been saying things like I hate you or I only listen to my Gigi! And I’m really not sure how to stop this behavior for a while ignored it but now I feel like I’m letting him walk all over him me. It’s not a great lesson to teach that you can talk to me however you want lol
Please help I would love some advice!!!!
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Fed up!
My child’s father is stressing me out! One minute he’s happy the next he’s having a complete bitch fit🤣 he blames me for his rap career not popping off the way he wanted. Says he gave me 2 kids and he has nothing to show for it. Granted when we met I was in school for music business I worked with KCamp and MoneyBagg Yo and Dolph all before they blew up when they were still establishing themselves I told him I could help him but then I moved from LA being in the club life back home to take care of my dad. Things got hard I wasn’t in the places I needed to be to make his dreams come true and money wasn’t there because we had bills. Covid happened and things really went down but I tried to help him when I had it but like he says my priorities changed…duh we were pregnant, had bills in the middle of a pandemic shit was hard for the world and we could never really gain our feet back under the music thing. Now that we are pregnant again he’s blaming me for his life not being where he wanted but I got what I wanted a family. I’m so tired to where I don’t care if he leaves me or not he don’t pay NO BILLS, he don’t help around the house, but he has a job and does whatever he wants with his money and our son and I are always last on his mind unless it’s a holiday or birthday. I needed to vent because I’m fed up and tired
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Meal time woes
hey everyone!! We’ve fully stepped away from formula feeds and are cracking down on three meals and up to two snacks a day (plus one bottle of whole milk right when waking and then one before bed time), it’s been going fairly okay.
BUT- the caveat 😂 little bro is going through this phase where he only wants to eat with his hands and likes what he likes and turns his nose up at anything else. What’re we doing to introduce new foods and most importantly, healthy alternatives. I refuse to give him pizza and nuggs every night just to get him to eat 😂
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Am I wrong?
My husband has gone away for the weekend on a buck’s which is in theory fine.
Our toddler is sick and sh slept poorly for 2 nights prior to his leaving - so badly I almost called in sick to work one day because I’ve had so little sleep. So my husband definitely knew she was sick. Went anyway. We also have 2 other daughters. (4 and 6)
I sent him a text to be like toddler vomited and has a small rash and he was like oh that sucks hope the weekend isn’t horrible for you! This pissed me off so much because he didn’t even pretend to care about her or my stress levels. I feel like if the roles were reversed he’d be pissed that I left him alone for a whole weekend with a sick child plus 2 others. He didn’t even do anything to help me get ready for the weekend (we don’t have groceries, I just had to push a heavy queen sized mattress into one of my daughter’s bedrooms on my own so we could all sleep together tonight.
He has also periodically picked fights with me about “not being supportive enough” I.e. pissy because I don’t act enough like his mummy. But then he’ll leave me with sick kids?
I get that we all are in need and deserving of breaks but I feel like he should have offered to come home (or not left in the first place). The longer I stew the more fucking annoyed I get.
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