Pregnancy Anxiety

Personally I would say a level of anxiety is normal but not to the point it’s affecting your everyday. If you feel that you need help and that’s it’s a constant then there’s absolutely no shame in asking and speaking with the midwives again or GP to discuss prenatal anxiety as this could be what you have

As for feeling flutters etc I wouldn’t worry too much. A lot of women can not feel anything for up to 20+ weeks. And it sounds like the scans you’ve had have given all the indications that everything is okay with baba

I completely get it though, naturally you’re going to worry and just want everything to be okay. Try to take it easy on yourself your body, emotions and hormones are going through a hell of a lot right now 🤍

Aww im sorry to hear your feeling so anxious. I had a silent miscarriage last year so this pregnancy i had a bit of anxiety mostly up until I started feeling that constant movement. And when I say constant I mean daily not at all moments of the day. It is totally normal I would say to feel like this impending doom. Ive had so many horrible dreams about miscarriages etc and its just a horrid feeling. Hopefully all your scans have given you some reassurance. I think it will get better for you once you feel those daily kicks because I could jave easily jad a scan every week from 7 weeks I would worry so much but now I feel him.move at his normal times and some random times too and its so reassuring. I really hope you start to feel a bit more relaxed. Xxx

It’s totally normal to feel super anxious! I was when I was earlier on! But like you said there’s nothing to indicate what is wrong but because your so early on and movements are very subtle and often don’t happen everyday it’s understandable.

I tried to get more scans just to reassurance so if that makes you more at ease no harm in going to scans frequently!

It’s just important to remember that nothing is wrong with baby and that it’s your first time doing this so take it easy on yourself, it’s not wrong to be more worried than excited sometimes! x

Possibly not much help but …
I was 42 so “high risk”
Didn’t feel a thing for 19 weeks
Didn’t have any early scans
I was a FTM also (and I’m a mental health professional)
Baby was absolutely wonderful
As hard as it is - try to focus on what’s going right

Hiiii! This is completely normal! Your body is going through a huge hormonal shift that can cause high levels of anxiety. But your feelings are completely valid!

Keep updating your provider with how your feeling and if your anxiety starts interfering with your daily life and your normal behavior starts to change, please let your provider know so you can get the help you need.

I think you're doing the right thing by going on here and getting validation from others who felt the same way you are. I personally developed prenatal/postpartum OCD and anxiety. And the best thing was to get support from other moms and resources from my community. Hope this helps!!

I bought a heart Doppler and would use it every time the baby was not moving much so I could just relax. She was always a wiggle worm then would go a day without wiggles and I would be so concerned. But using a Doppler to check at home really helped.