Advice (unfaithful?) - what would you think/do?

Ladies, I'd like some advice on what you would do/think..so I've been in a long-term relationship with my partner, but I have noticed over the last few years that he's become more secretive with his second phone.

So much so that whenever I come into the room, he always put the phone straight to the homepage for me to not see what he was doing. I thought it was a one off but I've realised its actually become a pattern.

Earlier in our relationship, he told me the password to this phone and didn't mind me going into it (even though I only ever went on it in his presence), but the change in his behaviour with this phone came along the same time as when he changed the password.

I've tried to confront him about it but he always finds an excuse, and never tries to reassure me of his loyalty.

When I ask him about it, he says that I'm the one who's forgotten the password and that he hasn't changed it but is adamant about me not seeing or accessing the phone.

Am I wrong to assume he's been unfaithful, entertaining someone he doesn’t want me to know about?

(And for a slight context, a few years ago, he actually told me he set up a dating profile on the same phone to help a friend who isn't good at talking to women).

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I would go with your gut instincts..they are usually right ❤️

I wouldn’t say it automatically proves he’s cheating, but I’d definitely be suspicious too. It’s the change in behaviour that would bother me most — hiding the screen when you walk in, suddenly not wanting you near a phone you previously knew the password to, and then dismissing your concerns instead of reassuring you. And the dating profile explanation would already have made me uncomfortable 😭
I’d stop arguing about whether you “forgot” the password and make the conversation about trust instead. Something like, “I don’t need to search your phone, but your behaviour around it is making me feel like something is being hidden.” If he still refuses to have an honest conversation, that in itself would be a problem for me 🤍

Sorry to say this but in my opinion He’s up to no good
WFT is he doing joining a dating app because his friend is no good at talking to women will he be the one dating them this is BS he’s unfaithful in some kind of way even if it’s just talking to other women!!
Please address it with him in black & white
Be firm & if he’s gas lighting you
I would go to stay with a friend / family member for a week or so to decide what’s next for the relationship
🙏🏼

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