Sad being done.

I’m 38, have three beautiful kids, and my youngest is only 6 months old. I know I should feel happy to be finished and able to focus on my life and the kids I have, but instead I feel so sad.

I keep having this feeling that someone is missing. I’m going to miss the newborn stage so much, even though it nearly kills me every time. 😂 The exhaustion, the postpartum depression, lack of family support and having gestational diabetes with every pregnancy are all very real reasons why I know I probably shouldn’t have another.

But emotionally, I’m struggling with the thought that this is really the end.

Does anyone else feel sad about being done having babies? ❤️

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I feel a bit sad too. I’m 31 and just had my fourth 3 weeks ago today. I’ve always wanted 4 and during pregnancy was so so sure I was done, and I think for practicality reasons we need to be done at 4 but I’m still so sad about it 🫠 I’m so thankful and know I’m so lucky to have had 4 healthy babies, 2 boys & 2 girls but the thought of being done and not doing this again is really hard! I’m trying to soak up every bit of my youngest but she’s already growing so fast and I’m struggling with the firsts that have already become my lasts 🥲

I can squeeze one more out of my husband, but I really anticipate wanting one more! My pregnancies and births and even newborn stages are easy, but my husband is 41 this year and he has 3 kids from a previous marriage and we have 2 at home. But maybe I’ll want 4 at home! Or 6! 😭

I have 2 and really can't wait to have a third. I really hope that I'll feel like I'm done after my next baby!

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