Night time fear!
My twins are 13 weeks now (6 weeks corrected) and I’d say the last week or so when it hits 6pm twin 1 will become absolutely hysterical, crying uncontrollably and literally nothing will calm him down. We’ll go through the cycle of nappy change, bottle, burp, cuddle, rocking, taking him for a walk in the pram or even just sitting outside with him to calm him down but nothing works and then he sets off the other twin. It’s getting to the point where both me and my husband dread the evenings and then start snapping at each other because we’re both trying different things to calm him down. I assume this is probably witching hour/s but it’s unbearable currently and as soon as I finally get them to sleep I have to hide in the bathroom just for a 10 minute cry lol.
Any tips on how to get through it and how long this stage might last?
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My health visitor said between week 6-10 are the hardest weeks because they have such a big development in the brain and the stomach is maturing, not to mention physical growth. My little boy was the same for a good few hours he wouldn’t settle. He is 11 weeks now and I feel the last 2 weeks he has settled. Im not sure how things work with premie babies development but I would imagine they are going through this big change! Hang in there xx
Hold on tight, you’re doing amazing 🫶🏼 ride the storm it will get better, when our baby got to this stage we used to I’ll offer an extra small (2/3oz bottle), sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t.
In regard to snapping at one another, I don’t care what anybody says .. NORMAL !! You’re both overstimulated, I bin bagged my fella once over an episode like this 🤣 it does get better though I promise !
Also, we’re in the same area, if you fancy a coffee or anything I’d be more than happy to meet with you to allow venting with zero judgement 🥰 xx
My little one is the same age and is also going through the same; it’s so tough and heart breaking. We’ve also been told he’s showing early signs of teething which isn’t helping his irritability 😩
However we’ve found a warm bath before a big bottle and bed helps calm him down, also white noise and low lights; keep him close to you with extra cuddles🫶
It’s tough going through it with one so I can’t imagine how it must be with two, you’re doing amazing; don’t be hard on yourself, it will pass❤️
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