ADHD in girls
I have a daughter who will be 5 in December and I have suspected she has ADHD for a very long time. I put in a referral at our GP (I am UK based) and filled out all the forms including with her preschool however our referral was then denied as they can’t assess until she is at least 6 years old. Despite that I still try to treat and care for her as if she has a diagnosis to better understand her behaviour however recently I am really struggling! Especially bedtimes. She used to go into her room alone from age 3 and would happily put herself to sleep after a bedtime story and with some white noise. However the last 3/4 weeks bedtime has been HELL. She will go into her room for around an hour (won’t sleep) then suddenly come running out crying and screaming and saying she doesn’t want to sleep without me there , when I try to redirect her back to bed she will hit, slap, bite, scratch, throw things around the room, scream at me and say things like “I don’t care” and this can go on for almost an hour. Does anyone have any advice on how to manage this ? I really don’t want to give in by letting her sleep in my bed every night as it took me 3 years to get her into her own room in the first place 😣
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Have you tried to decipher why she doesn’t want to sleep without you? Is she scared? Is there a monster under her bed? Is it fomo? Does she have a night light? Is she beginning to have separation anxiety?
I would try and figure out what the root of the problem is before immediately letting her climb in your bed. BUT I would see if maybe you can sit in the room with her while she goes to sleep, is it inconvenient….yes, but it’s an alternative to having her climb in bed with you.
I say all this as a mum with a teen girl and a almost 6 year old boy who both have adhd but are polar opposites, my teen basically never slept in my bed, my boy though we have been bed sharing since he was a babe and then carrying him to his own bed 😅 only recently has he been going to sleep in his own bed with or without me
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