Managing multiples
Hello! I have three kids and they’re all under 4. It is extremely difficult to take them all out at once and do things with all of them. I’m usually alone with them 24/7 as hubby works all the time. I’ve been wanting to take them to the park by myself but I’m so worried one of them is going to run away. Even when we go in the back of our unit they’re always darting different ways and trying to run to the street while the other runs to the other side of the building. It’s extremely difficult. I try to chase them but it turns into a game and is terrifying because then I have to manage the other two. I’ve tried setting up playdates so maybe we can just hang out and tag team all of our kids together but nobody seems willing. Which I mean they’re my kids so I get it but like I’d make sure someone else’s kid doesn’t run into the street haha. Anyways, the park does have a fence but there’s a whole open area that they could run past me and they could run around to get on either side of the roads. I had parents at an open park tell me their kids never needed leashes and they listen to them. It makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong with my parenting and I don’t even have a leash but idek what to do. Even packing up the car is a nightmare. We’ve tried put your hand on the car and having them by us and they end up like that bluey episode with the rain and the moms like please don’t go in there with wet feet lol but them trying to run away while putting their sibling in the car haha. Anybody else have little multiples and having a hard time logistically? How do you manage? Any tips?
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Reins/leash and if they're an escape artist like mine, chest clips for pram etc. Also, the hoppie hammock is a lifesaver 👌🏻 If you would like any links, let me know
The way I would start teaching my kids their boundaries is with the wrist leashes and go for walks. As they walk they are going to want to pull and run, it's natural, but with the leashes you are able to bring them in to a safe distance from you while you also tell them within arms reach and where you can see them. Eventually, once you go to the park you can tell them those things and they will know.
Would it help if you spoke to them about the dangers of running away. I know it’s not nice but maybe they need to hear that they could get lost or someone could try and take them away etc. it might help them to think twice.
It might also help to set up some reward or consequence system for listening and staying close to mummy on days out etc. if they don’t listen and run off, they get something taken away and if they are really good, they get a small treat (doesn’t have to be something that costs a lot of money) it could be something as simple as choosing what to have for desert one day or an activity to do etc.
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