Intimacy issues

Me and my partner are going through a rough patch and I'm not sure how we're going to get through it/if I even want to. There's a lot we have been discussing and still a lot to talk about. We've been together for 14 years and have an almost 3 year old.
But...my question here is that he basically comes up and holds/strokes my breasts at random points throughout the day without asking me and I really really don't like it. Each time it happens I say something like 'stop it' or push his hands away but he doesn't seem to get the message. He does the same with grabbing/rubbing my bum. I have told him recently in one of our conversations that I don't like it but he hasn't got the message. Am I wrong in not wanting to be touched like this without being asked?

We are having a hard time sexually (I basically have low sex drive atm and don't really want to have sex with him at the moment and still need to figure out why this is how I'm feeling) but with him touching me when I don't want him to this puts extra pressure on the sex thing. And really not sure where to go from here or what to do about it.

Any advice appreciated, thank you

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Are u overstimulated? Do u feel appreciated? When I have those two i noticed I don't like being touch and don't feel respect. I had to tell my man more then once i don't feel appreciated or overstimulated and he respects it and does not push it

I would suggest spending some alone time everyday with just yourself and scheduling time to connect with him. It may sound like a chore, but the connection with your partner is something you both must constantly work on.

Grabbing a boob or your arse isnt romantic, and it isnt intimate. Not all women are the same but for a lot of us we can't just press a button and get turned on. If the only time he ever touches you is to initiate sex then you will immediately shut down. Touch shouldn't feel like pressure into sex. It should be from love and if it leads to sex great. This isnt a you problem, there's some connection or non sexual intimacy lacking that you both need to fix together.
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