People pleasers don't please others
If you're a self proclaimed people pleaser, please don't. I know it feels agreeable and diplomatic. I know you think its a way to keep peace and maintain relationships.
But rarely do people pleasers hide their true feelings as successfully as they think. The people on the receiving end of your pleasing can often tell you don't actually want to do the thing, or you don't actually like them, and it just makes you come across as insecure or ingenuine.
So now you're unhappy because youre going against your own preferences, and the recipient is unhappy because your words and behaviors and vibes don't sync up. It makes people question your motives and makes you seem untrustworthy. Have the confidence to be true to yourself for everyone's sake.
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Duly noted!
Totally agree! I always tell ppl, it’s okay to say NO. My sister is a ppl pleaser and the only ppl who get anything out of it or happy when she folds for them are manipulators & users. bt usually she and the recipients are never happy cuz my sister jus does things to please others at her own expense. I don’t even ask her for anything cuz I know she will just say yes to please me cuz she can’t say No & bt then complain abt it later. lol very exhausting being in her shoes so I told her it’s best to jus stop ppl pleasing & self abandoning.
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