No judgment please.... to send toddler into daycare or not to send?

I'm currently stay at home mom with a 2 1/2 year-old and expecting 🙏🏼💕💙 I have the option of putting my oldest into daycare around the corner twice a week for a couple hours a day. The Mom guilt in me keeps going back-and-forth if it's the right thing to do ...I think it would be good for all of us, especially her to have her own thing and get 1:1 attention learn new skills, socialize make friends, etc. what would you do? Would you keep your oldest home with you or send them for a bit part-time to help with the adjusting postpartum, etc.

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Partners

Anyone else struggling with being told they ‘don’t do enough’ by their partner despite having next to no energy and still doing all of the house jobs that they did before? 😐

School Run and Newborn

Any tips for doing the school run with a newborn who is EBF? My husband is going back to work on Monday and has been a huge help, getting our eldest sorted while I change and feed our 5 week old. But how do I manage when he's back at work? He'll have left the house before we need to wake up so won't be able to help at all. Thank you!!

Husband's friend is moving in with us

So I received a message from my husband saying his friend is coming back to the city TODAY and has nowhere to stay and heading to the homeless shelter, so he offered to stay with us. We don't have a basement suit so he would stay in our spare room. He is coming back to the city from rehab and he has a court appearance for stealing a car, driving with no license and fck knows what else.....
I do not want him around my child!! I'm literally freaking out. He is nice to talk to if passing by but I don't trust him. And I sure don't trust him around my toddler.
What do I do? They're already at home.
My husband wants to help him to get straight, but we already did when he first moved to the city. Helped him, move, gave him a lot of stuff for the apartment he rented, vacuum, beddings, old computer etc. to get started. And he just doesn't care. He doesn't work a job longer then a month, lives on benefits, then got involved with people doing drugs. What if he tells them our address saying he is staying there?? I don't want the police to come knocking at our door or he is "friends" he left behind when fled to rehab...

What do I do???

Pre pre nursery place - worried mum

My child is 2years and 4months and been offered a full time nursery place and recently and grateful but also worried about the age being young
Also a massive class of 26. Has anyone else’s child started this young ? Mon -Friday ? So undecided to make to right decision 😣😣

Did I potty train too early?

A few weeks ago my little started ripping her nappy off and would say wee wee… so we got the potty out and she would wee in the potty. Took her around a week to have accident free days and now two weeks later she has an accident here and there and it’s still not perfect. But at nursery her first day last week she had 3 accidents and the second she had 7! Didn’t think three was too bad but 7 isn’t great and we had around 7 today. I can’t work out if this is down to them and not being on it enough or because it’s just too early for my little girl.

Anyone have any advice, wisdom or can point me in the right direction?

Different parenting styles

What can you do if you and your partner have very different parenting styles and you don’t like what they do?

For context purposes son is nearly 1. I’m all for co-regulating and responding to my child’s every need. We co-sleep, breastfeed, and my son has a very secure bond with me and has separation anxiety away from me.

My husband takes a more hand off approach, thinks we shouldn’t pick up and comfort our son every time he’s crying if it’s not an emergency (I.e he’s injured), and should let him figure out his emotions on his own.

My husband thinks the fact our son has a very secure attachment to me and seeks me out for comfort is effecting his relationship with our son. I said he should be striving to build his own secure attachment with our son and be less concerned with my relationship to him.

What are your thoughts on this?