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Just a late night thought because apparently this is what I think about at 2am 😂

I think one of the hardest parts about trying to make mom friends on here is that you just don’t know who you’re actually going to vibe with from a profile 😅

I’m super down to earth, go with the flow, homebody/cozy type of person. I don’t need to be doing something all the time. I’m perfectly happy sitting in the house with coffee, talking about random stuff, laughing, letting the kids play, whatever lol. So I feel like I’d struggle trying to build a friendship with someone who is super serious all the time or has a completely different vibe than me.

And then I think being in a similar stage of life matters too. I’m 32, married, and have 4 kids, one with special needs, might I add. That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be friends with someone younger or with one baby, but realistically we might just be in two completely different places in life. They might still want to go out and party and I’m over here genuinely excited about my pumpkin spice creamer in the morning 😂

I think I want a friend who just…gets it. Someone I don’t have to explain my whole life to because they understand the season I’m in. And that’s so hard to tell from a profile.

And then sometimes the conversation just…dies 😅 Not even because anything happened, but it starts feeling like one person is carrying it or you realize you just don’t naturally click. I think that’s what makes trying to make friends on apps so awkward.

Does anyone else feel like finding people you actually click with is the hardest part?

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Yes , clicking on I’m this app is extremely hard! I am 22, married, thought it would be easier for me to get along with people my age, but literally nothing in common. I’m connecting better with 28-32 year olds… maybe it’s the Eastern European mentality in me , idk

I can relate to that

I find it extremely hard to find friends when. The only people I talk to are toddlers or kids lol

It really is. I tell my fiance all the time that I need some adult interaction cause the kids are the only people I really talk to

I feel this so hard today. Making and keeping friendships is exhausting because we’re all just tired moms. Don’t even get me started on when you have 3+ kids because damnnnnn we made choices. Love love love love loveeeeeeee my children but you can’t get it if you’re not living it.

The conversation dying with no reason and no warning is the most awkward part because you're both just quietly aware it happened and neither of you says anything. 😂 You just described mom friendship in the most accurate way possible. 🤍

Yess, I 100 percent agree. Just because we are all moms or moms to be doesn’t mean we are automatically on the same wavelength.

Ugh I wish we lived closer to one another! We’d probably get on so well.

in our community

Have yall ever kissed and or had sex with your husband and not felt anything for them.

Context I guess is we’ve been having problems since we got together and I guess I’m just not physically into him anymore.

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So… How Do Adults Make Friends?

First post in here and I figured I’d finally say hi instead of just scrolling 😂

I’m 36, a mom to a 19, 9 and a 2.5-year-old, all girls!! I work full time, so life is basically always busy.

I’ve also realized I’m 100% a Type C mom 😂 I have good intentions. I make lists. I forget about the lists. Somehow things still get done.

Honestly, I’m just looking for some mom friends. Like REAL friends. Someone to text random things to, grab coffee with, complain about life with, and actually make plans with.

If you’re in the same boat, I’d love to meet you. Because apparently making friends as an adult is weirdly hard. 😂

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Anyone wanna chat.

Doing a field trip for the next hour or so, I'm soooooo bored sitting here. Trying not fall asleep 🤣🤣.

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