Im just done

Im a single mum with little to no help, by that i mean she goes to nursery and i have a sibling that has her over night if i have a special occasion or something, i have been a mum for coming up to 4 years and she has been away from me 6/7 times (excluding nursery when im at work) and honestly im done. I dont want to parent anymore. I dont want to play with my child, i dont want to answer the same question multiple times, i dont want to have to get straight back up when i sit down, i dont want to have to wipe bums or take her out every day or act interested in stuff or have arguments over little things. I love her to pieces but i just dont want to it all anymore. I have adhd so a lot of daily things i struggle with anyway but im just drained, but I feel so guilty.

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AuDHD single mama here too. Feel free to message but offering solidarity because I am permanently exhausted too.

Girly, you have just described what every single mum has felt at least once in their life! At least once!!!! The guilt, the hate for the job, the need to just be alone, the want to just walk away. You have just hit the nail on the head! You are so not alone and tbh if you struggle with ADHD you are most likely in a burnout phase. Where you are burnout, tired and don’t have the energy to do it all! When I’m like this I do the bare minimum and I leave the rest! I chuck it in piles for that room, I don’t see people, I just function until it goes away no matter how long it takes! You aren’t alone and you definitely don’t need to feel guilty about you feel xx

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