Potty Training

Hi mama’s!💗 My son is 20 months & has shown an interest in potty training since around 14 months. I feel like I’ve tried EVERYTHING. We have little potty’s everywhere, big boy training undies, we talk about the potty, and he’ll even sit on it like he’s supposed to… but then he gets up, says “YAY!” and claps like he just accomplished something…meanwhile the potty is still completely empty. 😂

He’ll go on the floor, but apparently the potty is where we draw the line. He also HATESSSS wearing diapers. He’ll take them off at bedtime because he just wants to be free! And honestly, I get it 😅 so I let him be free, but of course… he’ll pee the bed.

I guess I’m just looking for tips or different ways you mama’s have helped your little ones understand that the potty is okay and that pee/poop actually goes IN it. 😂 He seems interested, but I don’t want to push him too hard and make him hate it.

ALSOOOO he likes to touch/mess with his little area a lot, and as a first time mama it kinda freaked me out at first. I’m always like “no thank you, that’s our pe*is” but then I’m like… he’s literally still a baby. ☹️ Is he just discovering that he has something there?

It’s just me & him, so I don’t have a dad figure around to help model any of this either. I would LOVE to hear what worked for your toddlers, especially if you had a little boy who was stubborn about the potty! 🥹

Please give me all the tips, mama’s! 💕

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it’s been a quite while now my husband jokes HURT me badly
some of them are he had a bad hair cut and start to look a teenager i was crying looking at him because i was insecure about myself and late at night he said your armpit looks so ugly and i was like wth you know after baby im insecure about it he reply so i had a bad hair cut and you cried he took a revenge and they are so many stories now cant even tell them now
anyway
im been burned out completely my baby is refusing a milk for a week now she just started to have a bottle yesterday ( took doctors and everything) he sleeps outside because he has work i was exhausted i slept for 4 hours and last night i cooked for at 6 to 7 hours i cooked his favourite meal and i asked him to make me a tea he said he’s exhausted i made tea i went to sleep my baby woke at 3am i gave her a massage and made her sleep again she woke at 8 again i slept at 4 i was exhausted i was slapping myself hard af he was leaving for gym and HE LEFT !!! was i invisible? i told him i dont wanna live with you book my ticket i told him as well i dont care about your baby i wanna go and he came back within 5 minutes saying he’ll make breakfast and stuff i refuse i started to hate this man so much i cant be intimate with him i cant even talk to him about myself aaahhh help me out please my baby is 5 months old and we’re been together for 2yr

Both parents go into an office and baby goes to nursery - how are you managing?

How does this situation work? ATM I am working from home and husband was made redundant, but I will need to return to the office after xmas. Baby goes to nursery 3 days a week, and husband is doing interviews/building portfolio etc. But even with us both being at home , it's so hard to manage a baby, getting sick/ having to pick him up from nursery. Or mornings are chaotic and I end up starting not when I want to. I just don't understand how you all manage to make it work if both parents need to go into an office? I know (and hope) that we will both be working soon, but am struggling to see how we will cope.

Would you feel resentful?

I’m currently 29, married & a first time mum (little one is 11 weeks old).

Even though I’m married, I feel like I’m a single parent as I’m doing absolutely everything. My husband has never got our baby to sleep, in 11 weeks he’s probably fed him once or twice (he’s formula fed). The only thing he seems to do is bath him for 5/10 minutes at night.

He works 5 days a week, but currently is always busy doing something he wants to do on a Saturday (golf, fishing etc). He’s gone pretty much all day from 8-9am until 5-6pm despite me being at home all day, everyday.

How do I even approach the subject or get a resolution to this without causing an argument? I am feeling super upset & emotional about this. I feel I could be slowly slipping into postpartum depression as I feel this should be the happiest time of my life but yet I feel so miserable.

Advice- no judgement

Long story but I’ve been with my partner for nearly 9 years since the age of 15 (24 now) we’ve got 2 beautiful babies aged 3 and 1 and just sold our home a couple of months back to purchase a new house that’s currently going through probate. We are currently moved back in with his parents whilst we was waiting for the sale to go through but I can’t help but be so unhappy in the relationship this past 2 months, we don’t argue as such but I find he is so miserable and hard to have a bit of fun with, I’m more outgoing and like to have fun whilst he is quiet, he doesn’t like it if I say I’m going out with friends even though I still have a friendship group and I just feel constantly miserable. I would never condone cheating but I can’t help but think that I’m missing out on being with someone who is more me and someone I can have fun with. But it’s so hard to know what to do as I do love him and I am so petrified of tearing our family apart but I just want to be happy too and I’m still young I don’t want to waste all my life being in a relationship in which I’m not 100% happy. The guilt is taking over my life 😭

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My man always be tryna fuck all day then the kids go to sleep and he doesnt. Like he went right to his game. Its always some excuse to play his game. I stayed up to have time with him. I feel like our relationship is falling apart. I barely see him. He stays up til 7am then sleeps til 2pm when he goes to work. At 10 he comes home and gets on the game. Im a SAHM so im dead tired but i still want to spend time with him and he just doesn’t want anything to do with me.

Husband cheating

A little backstory. 2 years ago I found out that my husband was watching half naked ladies live on TikTok. Not only that, he went as far as paying them to FaceTime with him for “private performances”. When I found out I was heartbroken 💔 I cried so much and when I confronted him he accused me of searching his phone. He said it wasn’t cheating because he never met those women and there was no penetration involved. He later apologised but deep down he still thought he didn’t do anything wrong. He then changed his password and said we shouldn’t look into each other’s phones Forgiving him was so hard but I never forgot. Not even once.
Fast forward to 2 night ago, he fell asleep while watching a totally different, non sexual live. I took his phone to turn it off and decided to check if he was still doing that thing.
I found out he still follows those women on TikTok. This time I was just sad and unsurprised I guess. When I asked him about it he said he doesn’t do that anymore and he swore he stopped.

My problem is, even if he doesn’t watch those lives anymore why is he still following those women? When I asked him why he hasn’t unfollowed them yet he said they are too many to unfollow and that he’s not had the time.
I find this excuse very stupid and honestly I’m heartbroken but I have accepted that I will not be insulted in this marriage. I have accepted that even if we get a divorce I’m fine with it, we’ll just raise our 2 year old as co-parents.

Am I overreacting? Should I be more understanding about this? I’d really appreciate some advice now.