Advice- no judgement

Has he always been quiet? What things did you used to do together before having kids? Do you ever go on date nights, food drinks have a dance and a laugh together?

Maybe you just need to rekindle that spark again. Spend time together where you can actually feel like partners instead of just mum and dad

You're both young and have alot of responsibility at such a young age, i think you should sit down with him and have a conversation on how you're feeling, be honest!! and come up with a plan on how you can move forward together and get that spark back.

If you've been together since you where 15, people change, and it's OK if you think he's not your person now, but I do think you need to be totally honest with him on how you're feeling, don't cheat that's not fair on anyone and the grass isn't always greener on the other side, if he doesn't know how you're truly feeling how can he try and make things better?

Your unhappiness seems to coincide with when you moved in with his parents. Is he miserable because you've been living with his parents for months? I think you need to sit down with him and have a talk x

he’s always been more quiet than me yes but it just opened my eyes when we went out with a few friends and their partners for the first time in forever, whilst everyone was up dancing and having a sing along with their partners I felt as though I was on my own as my partner just sat there doing nothing, it did made me think in that moment is this what I really want. We definitely have a lot of responsibility and my kids are my 100% main focus point and your right it just feels like mum and dad at this point, and he’s a brilliant father too I can’t fault that. We hardly every do anything together as our family works it’s hard to find someone to have our children so we never really get a break. I just can’t help but feel like we’re going in circles it’s like I’ve got to make the effort to even have a conversation or we would probsbly just go all day parenting without even talking to each other. I have brought it up a few times and he says there’s no problem, things may change

and he will make a little bit of effort and then they just return to how they are again. I’d never cheat I do not agree with it but I can’t help feeling that I don’t want to spent the rest of my life in a relationship with someone who I feel like I can’t fully be myself when I could end up with someone who matches my energy a lot more. I feel awful especially the situation as we are buying a house and i don’t even know what I’d do if I left so it’s a lot of things that are scaring me, it’s definitely been more stressful living here as we lived on our own for years but again it was the same thing of just parenting and actually not making an effort with one another. I just feel so stuck at the moment x

your right it definitely has made me open my eyes more since being here. It’s just little things like I said to him today I can’t remember the last time he gave me a compliment and he just turns around and says “you don’t give me compliments” it’s like a competition with him and as a woman it’s nice to hear nice things from your partner especially if you make an effort to look nice, just feel like everytime I say something that makes me feel like this he turns it into a competition where he just goes back and forth instead of actually listening to how I feel x