Worried about recovering

Im worried about recovering from a second c section, I know people say its easier but my partner doesn’t help me or seem to understand that there is a-lot I won’t be able to do … I’m worried I’m going to end up back I’m the hospital for tearing my incision, or i am worried about pp depression from the lack of support I already have from him, my family is here to help but stressed me even more because I don’t want to cause any drama between anyone because my family will say something… and his mom is so overprotective of him and doesn’t want anyone saying anything to “her baby” he is literally 33 years old …. Im so overwhelmed and worried about everything and about having to suffer through more pain then i will be in … he literally complains about needing help doing everything! And we have a toddler and I do everything for her now when he has to do anything for her he whines about it and asks for help

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Am I overthinking this?

Hey! My baby is 3.5 months now and I'm absolutely loving being a mum. I'm EBF and finally feeling more confident with it. But I feel like I maybe make things so much harder than they need to be. I've never been a laid back person; I like to be organised and punctual but obviously, this goes out of the window now and I'm just finding it a bit difficult to adapt, I think.

Do you find it easy getting out the house? Going for walks with the pram? Do you just get up and get out in the car? Show up to baby classes feeling OK and like it was easy? Because I feel like getting myself ready, baby ready, bag ready and going out is quite overwhelming.

Am I overthinking this or is it actually hard?

Not doing great the minute

Tomorrow is my last (solo) day with my baby before they start nursery next week and then I am back to work full time shortly after. To say I am struggling would be an understatement. I cannot stop crying, and I've been crying non stop for the last few weeks. I'm not ready to be away from my baby, especially 5 long days a week. My baby isn't 100% at the minute due to a lingering cold and cutting 2/3 teeth. Last settle session today before starting on Monday and I get a call to pick up early as my baby is so upset. I turn up, my baby takes one look at me and starts screaming and is so distraught, genuinely was so distressing seeing my baby like that. I just broke down on the nursery doorstep, the staff had to console me. I got home and I sobbed the hardest I think I've ever sobbed.

This isn't my first rodeo going back to work, my eldest is nearly 5 and it was of course difficult going back to work but I am struggling so much this time. When I went back full time after my first, they were cared for by my mum 5 days a week so it was easier on the both of us. I know this nursery, my first went there for over 2 years but it is just so different my baby going to nursery compared to my 2 year old. Plus, this year has flown by and I can honestly say, I have loved it so much, I don't want this period of my life to end.

And then when I am back to work, my first, who started school in September, will be in wraparound care everyday. The GUILT I am feeling over both my babies having such long days, being cared for by other people is more than I can cope with.

And to top it off, my flexible working request was rejected and I am now in the appeal process so I am going back with that added stress of going through the appeal, working alongside my manager who rejected my request and definitely won't be happy I'm appealing, whilst doing my original work pattern which is an added strain going back.

I am so run down and exhausted from all the crying and the continuous level of stress and anxiety running through my body. I am struggling to eat as I feel sick to my stomach, I can't sleep as my mind is in overtime all the time and my house is a mess as I don't want to spend a single moment these last weeks on anything that isn't spending time with my baby.

Long old post and very impressed if anyone is still here but I really needed to get that off of my chest 😭

I’m so excited!!!

I had my job interview today and during it they were already scheduling my second interview!! I’m so freaking excited to start work again, I’ve been so stir crazy at home for the past two years😭 I love my daughter but I need a break too😬

Screen time

How much screen time do. You allow at baseline. And how much under extenuating circumstances? My 21 month old is allowed 30-60 minutes on days when I have her the full 24 hours alone (about 2-3 days a week). But I'm really struggling. I'm sick with some sort of viral infection (though she really seems right as rain), I'm 8 months pregnant (and I'm anemic), and tbh I think I'm really struggling with depression (the exhaustion just feels completely overwhelmed. And today I finally broke and we basically watched TV just about all day. I'm feeling really bad about it but I also feel like I'm struggling to survive.

Thinking about homeschool

Any moms homeschooling their 5 year olds. How is it going for you ? What do you guys do for the social part of the day,like having them be around other kids and stuff. And what website can I get free printable curriculum worksheets?

Primary School Nursery

Hi everyone! So my son will be 3 at the end of October so he won’t be able to start at a primary school nursery until Jan 27. But I’m so confused how the funding works. So he is currently getting 30hrs funded at his private nursery but the primary school we are considering says -

With regard to the number of hours, we offer 15 funded hours or a full day (30 hours + 1 additional hour ie 8.30am – 3.30pm). If selecting 30 hours then the first 15 will be funded and the remainder will be chargeable (£112.50 per week) unless you qualify for the extended funding. If you qualify for the extended funding you will only need to pay for the 1 additional hour (£30 per week).

This is where I’m completely baffled. Does anyone mind explaining it to me please? 🫣😊 Thank you xx