Toilet training help

We started toilet training in January this year when our son was 2.5 years old. We are now 8/9 months in and we are still having wee and poo accidents near enough every day. We have tried everything I can absolutely think of and I don’t know what more I can do.

I have spoken to the health visitors, his nursery for any advice but nothing has worked. He knows when he has had an accident (not always) but it doesn’t seem to click for him that feeling of needing to go or telling us when he needs to go. It is incredibly discouraging and when we take him to the toilet he gets upset. We don’t put pressure on him because it puts him off but we make the toilet accessible and available to him always.

I am just really at a loss of what to do and I am not putting him back in nappies because that’s moving backwards. I just can’t think of what to do apart from hope that it’ll just click for him one day and it concerns me when he is ideally supposed to be starting school next September but if he isn’t ready toilet wise, I don’t feel I can send him to school until he has mastered it.

Any advice or thoughts welcome

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Ive had 5 attempts of doing this with my LG and she was exactly like that, in the end we took a long break no mention of toilet or potty if she asked i took her but waited till she was able to understand more and summer hold was my last attempt, 1st week everyday was accident and I was bitterly about to throw in the towel think shes not going to get it, and by the 2nd week she was sitting on the toilet cos she outgrew the potty and was uncomfortable for her, she had maybe 2 accidents a week but that was the best progress we had in over a yr, and I tried everything! I know putting him in nappies is going backwards but maybe its not its giving him time to recognise and understand better, have you tried reusable pants?

i found that my little girl had accidents when she was wearing knickers, i think she thought it was a nappy so went naked and she got it, then we reintroduced knickers, dont know if you have tried naked from waist down

I’m in the same situation sort of, my boy knows, but sometimes just does it in his undies. Because he was quite good a while ago but then started having accidents again.

I want to try this, but I’m so scared of the mess, the house, things getting ruined. How did you do it??

she didnt have any accidents being naked, only when we used pants from nappies, after being naked a few days we introduced knickers again and she was fine, we have kept nappy on for bed though cause she had accidents at night but i need to get on that now x

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