Annoyed at partner
Would love some opinions. My husband has been commenting this evening about how tired and achy he is feeling, we have both been a little ill the last few days. this in itself doesn’t annoy me too much because I can appreciate that I have looked after our 4 month old all day and he has been out working all day. What annoys me is the following-
1. He came home after work and it was nearly an hour and a half before he finally came downstairs and took over care of our daughter. In the time he was just chilling I did a whole feed and two nappy changes plus general care.
2. He says he’s so tired knowing full well that he will have a decent night sleep tonight and I will be the one getting up to do feed and changes throughout the night etc …which irritates me as it feels like a real lack of awareness for what is ahead for me
3. Tomorrow (Saturday) he is going to watch his team play football with his dad so I will be on my own looking after baby most of the day. He made a joking comment about how he’s so tired that when he gets back from football tomorrow he will need to sleep the rest of the weekend …again I feel a complete lack of awareness on his part and appreciation for how I am feeling and how exhausted I am , plus the fact that I never feel like I get time to myself or time to do things I like the way he does
Am I being too sensitive? Should I say anything?
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The issue here isn’t that he’s tired, it’s that you’re not getting any alone time. Speak to him. Men are simple creatures and sometimes they need it explained in black and white what we need x
To add to what Yasmin said, have him wake up to help during the night at least Friday and Saturday night (assuming he doesn’t work weekends). And explain to him you need help and time to yourself (which he gets plenty of).
I was in a similar boat, my partner owns a company and I still find it hard now that he has to commit so much time to that and doesn’t have much time to be fully present. Not his fault as he has pressure on him but it’s so frustrating so when he wants to talk about his business I’m SO uninterested. Still annoys me now some days but I think what helps me is just blocking out time for me so telling him I’m going to get my nails done on a set day and he will have them for that period. Or a massage or just doing bits I enjoy doing that can only be done alone. It’s so hard! Your not alone in this ♥️ I also think going out with the babies and seeing people can help as it can get so isolating otherwise and subconsciously you’ll be thinking about things like this way more then he does as he’s out at work and you’ve only got a baby to talk to who can’t talk back yet- who you also probably wouldn’t talk to about adult things 🤣. You’ve got this girl xx
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Would love some opinions. My husband has been commenting this evening about how tired and achy he is feeling, we have both been a little ill the last few days. this in itself doesn’t annoy me too much because I can appreciate that I have looked after our 4 month old all day and he has been out working all day. What annoys me is the following-
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