I am struggling and not with parenthood
I love my son to absolute pieces, he is honestly what keeps me going. But last night I had the biggest loss of my life and I am grieving as if someone died.
My best friend since primary school decided to just remove me from everything and at first I asked her why, but then i got to angry to care so I just told her that if she's decided the friendship is over then fair enough. But i am distraught and I officially have no friends in my corner. It has really twisted me up because there was no explanation and i saw it coming for weeks. I literally told my partner a few weeks back "I think our friendship is over, I've just got that feeling". But then it actually became a reality and i don't really know how to feel anymore. I try so hard to maintain connections and keep things alight and now I just dont know what to do with myself. I've had 101 issues lately, back and hip pain (could be a fractured coccyx) my son is entering the twos so thats been a lot, I've been sick and my mental health is just a bit all over the place really. So my BEST FRIEND unadding me was like the nail in the coffin and I'm not doing great at all.
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A really similar situation happened to me girl, it does feel like grieving and it's so painful
Message me if you want đź’•
I'm so sorry this has happened!
I'm sort of in a similar situation. Ever since my best friend got married last year. I was her MoH, sorted her hen do but didn't go on it because my little girl was 3 months old, I was exclusively breastfeeding and I was actually suffering mentally, which she never knew about. I organised everything, set an itinerary, did hen party bags, yet it was the topic that was never mentioned because I think every single person slagged me off. Then the wedding came, been around since the early hours of the morning and we all left at 9/10pm, because my 3 year old was fast asleep and my then turned 4 month old was crying and clingy. We were slagged off again. Since then, tensions have been so high and I don't think she fully understands motherhood because she isn't one herself, and how your priorities change. She never messages and doesn't seem to care about my girls. I try and message or make small talk, but I know that our friendship is sizzling out.
I'm sending you big hugs xx
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