Baby shower gift etiquette??
Is it tacky/weird to ask people for either secondhand items (clothes, toys, or books that their kids have outgrown) OR a contribution to a group gift? I don't have a lot of needs or wants left on my registery except 5 big ticket items. And I just....don't need or want any of the smaller items that typically fill a registry except clothes, toys, and books (which I wouldn't want to list specifics for anyway).
I mentioned it to my mom and MIL (who asked to host for me) and they didn't seem enthused by it....so looking for other opinions. š¤·āāļø They'll do it if I ask, but I need to make the decision soon.
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I think thatās just the mindet of my people being worried about either where the secondhand items have been or just ānew baby, new things.ā
Iām a FTM mom to be and Iām ok with good condition secondhand items but my sister does not like the idea. But I understand that most of these things arenāt going to be used for very long so why pay top dollar? I also have group gifting available for my travel system as it is over $700. All of these things are ok to do IMO
I donāt think itās weird at all! If the clothes are still in great shape reuse them and save money on bigger items your baby will need. Kids grow so fast and clothes arenāt cheap for how fast a child grows at a young age. I plan to be new and used for our son. My sister offered me stuff my nephew didnāt wear so I told her I would take it if my other sister didnāt need it for our 2.5 month old nephew. My sister even offered me her left over newborn diapers since my nephew is now 2.5 month old. Girl save that money and donāt listen to anyone who says differently!
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