Advice

This is a really long story, but I’ll try to make it as short as I can. My son is 4 bd was locked up for 3 years. He was never involved in my child’s life he always made excuses when we had plans so he can build a relationship with my child. When he was locked up he threatened to take me to court because he said “on your days off I want to see him” but I told him I will let you know when we are available because at work I’m on my feet all day I come home exhausted some days I just want to relax and stay home or whatever. He got mad started saying I’m keeping my child from him. On aug 31 he came out and first thing he did was he went to the liquor store 10am. I didn’t know he was out I was on break at work and saw his instagram post that’s how I knew he was out. He didn’t text me till 4pm asking when he can see my son I asked what he wanted to do so I know how long it will be and when we have time for it. He told me “idk” so I told him to let me know when he knows so I can tell him when it’s a better time for us. Sept 2 he texted me asking for pictures of my son I sent it and then he asked me for the Roblox codes. That was it. Sept 8 he texted me asking if we can take my son to the park I said yes and asked if Saturday worked for him he said yes. Came sept 12 he surprisingly did show up. My son wanted to play in the sand and he turned around and looked at me and said “I’m not getting in the sand it’s going to ruin my shoes” then later on told me “I wish I knew we were coming to a park with sand I would’ve worn different shoes” I told him “your child wants you to play with him so get your butt down and play” he squatted down and I told him no sit down before I push you and I did ☺️ my son then playfully threw dirt at him and he got mad at him and my son came to me running and crying “mom I don’t like dad I want dad to go away” and then he looks at him and told him “dad go away I don’t like you go home leave me alone” my bd then made a “joke” said “look what you did” I stopped him and said “don’t do that, don’t tell him that you just came out after 3 years of not seeing him don’t discipline him rn” he said “it’s just a joke” so whatever that happened sept 12 and now it’s sept 20 and he hasn’t even asked about my child. Yet I’m the one who’s keeping my son away from him? My son told me yesterday “I want to see dad” and my therapist told me last time that if he says that I should message the dad to make plans or whatever because it’s acknowledging my child’s feelings which I’m all for but what about protecting them? Him being so inconsistent is going to hurt my child more in the long run than his dad just not being around at all. Do you girls have any advice on what to do in this situation? Should I text him “putting effort into letting him see him” (that’s what my therapist said) or should I just leave it alone because he hasn’t put any effort into the 3 weeks he’s been out.

This has nothing to do with it but I was so mad because he posted he has a girlfriend and like he can have a girlfriend I truly don’t care but to me it’s like ok you have time for this girl and to make a relationship with her but not for your own child??? It gets me soo mad especially because to him I’m the bad mom keeping my son away from him??? I know I can’t let him get me mad like this but omg it’s just so frustrating idk what to do at this point.

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Where’s my yappers at?!

I need someone to text back and fourth all day! Now I get, we get busy and things like that. I work and have three kids, so I totally get it. But I just want to yappppp about everything and anything! I feel like as soon as I give my number out, everybody disappears😔

PSA🚨

If you’re on here begging for a friend and then use one word replies and then ghost. . You’re WEIRD. . And this app isn’t for you. . IDK about you . But I’m on here to make REAL friends that are capable of holding a conversation!… and NOT talking about themselves the ENTIRE time. . Girl bye. 👋..

An old friend who was flaky is liking my social media and texted to tell me she published a book

I've already given up on the friendship because it was so one-sided, it was all about her it was all about being an audience to her and everything happening in her life.

Story of my Life where most female friends only become friends with me because it makes them look popular meanwhile if we hang out all I hear is about their traumas. There's never any real interest or even questions about our lives and if we happen to have gotten sick and couldn't agree to an outing it never seemed to be an acceptable response

I'm just so confused at female friendships and I just need to hear the truth once and for all. Am I just falling for poor friendships what are they even supposed to feel like because personally I honestly feel they should be reciprocal and there should be genuine interest back and forth

So this old friend saw my Instagram story posts and like them and then texted saying we're doing great and that she published a book and to check it out

And I'm just like okay. Again it's still all about her right?

I'm trying to understand if I'm seeing things clearly or not

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Okayyy, I’m putting myself out there 😂💕 I’m 27 and due in March 🤰🏽 and I’d love to make some new friends! Just looking for genuine girls I can talk to, laugh with, grab food, go out every now and then, or even just chill and vibe. 🫶🏽 If you’re looking for new friends too, feel free to comment or message me! 💕

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Birth control, what’s your experience?

Hey girlies, I just wanted to come and vent because I know I’m crazy and I think my hormones are getting the best of me… I feel like I’ve been having soft baby fever. My ovulation is crazy before or after during it doesn’t matter. The father of my child has been asking me if I would consider birth control because it’s not like I’m trying to deliberately get pregnant, but I also wouldn’t be mad at the idea if that makes sense😅
Anyways, I feel completely scared of looking at all of the birth control. I used to be on the shot and then the one time I stopped taking it since I was 14 I almost made 12 months and then my baby daddy got me pregnant. And then for maybe almost a year they put a device in my arm that they eventually took out because they thought it was causing other medical symptoms and I wasn’t sexually active anyways they just wanted to do it just to do it if you know what I mean. But I’ve been looking over the Options down to the patch and I do currently suffer from chronic migraines, nausea and dizziness, and I’ve seen terrible reviews where people claim they’ve gotten blood clots and other variety of different symptoms. I feel like I wanted at least try it, but it seems so traumatizing and then on the other side I feel like every time I go to the clinic or the doctors office. Every other person I come into contact with tells me a story about how every other one of their kids they were on birth control.😭😭😭 I wouldn’t be mad if I ended up with A Child, but I don’t wanna have to go through having something like IUD or Nexplanon or vaginal ring, inserted and go through all of that to either end of pregnant anyways or something worse you know? Sometimes I hate being that 5% that always catches all the random symptoms and side effects.😩😩😩

I’m hoping somebody can ease my mind on their experience. The last thing I wanna do is the IUD or pills I hate having to swallow pills, but I’ve only ever done the shot and that was ages ago.