I don’t know what to do

I’m a little over 4 months PP. I have been struggling pretty bad emotionally. My boyfriend and I have been having issues, even back when I was pregnant. I constantly feel like I’m walking on eggshells. I can never tell him how I feel or that he makes me feel a certain way because he turns it into a fight. He has anger issues and refuses to get back into therapy and get back on the meds he was taking. I left him last November. But it was only for a day. I was 6 weeks pregnant at that point.

We have been together a little over 2 years. I had a very complicated birth. He was absolutely amazing during all of that. But we’re back to him hating everything. It’s almost like it’s his way or no way. Even out in public. He just gets so mad all the time. If he accidentally drops something, it’s the end of the world. He’s always complaining on how everyone is out to get him and the world is out to get him.

Our son has been learning how to scream lol. Sometimes he will scream and cry at the same time. My boyfriend will just start yelling at him. Like I get it hurts your ears but he’s a baby. Like wtf! He says our son doesn’t like him because he only really does that when he’s home.

I’ve brought two dogs into this relationship. One is 10 years old and the other is 2 years old. The 10 year old is a rat terrier. My boyfriend hates him. They have never gotten along. Well the rat terrier is a senior dog. He has to wear diapers. He has peed on my boyfriend’s stuff before. Well I guess yesterday he wouldn’t go potty outside, but came back in the house and lifted his leg on our son’s stroller. He had his diaper on so he didn’t get any pee on it. But my boyfriend freaked out and basically told me that I have until the end of the week to get him out of his house. He’s making me choose between him and my first ever dog that I’ve had for the last 10 years.

Everything is so fucked right now. I’m so far in the hole it’s insane. He wanted me to stop working and just stay home with our son which I love doing. But I’m so far behind on my car payments that he said he would take care of. He makes $30/hour. I have no idea where all this money is going. He keeps saying we are so far behind in bills. Idk I’m just so lost right now.

I just want to run away 😭

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Nursery

Hey mummies and daddies, has anybody got experience with baby not getting used to nursery? My daughter started at 12 months (a month ago) and still has a meltdown every time we drop her off. How long until it settles? I worry that she’s just not happy there :(

1st night home

Gave birth 3 days ago, very traumatic. Lost a lot of blood, didn’t get induced as planned.

Girl is very sensitive to startle reflux, we have had 1.24 hours sleep last night as she won’t settle in her next to me crib.

We have tried swaddling which didn’t work and a grow bag. She is doing it every 30 seconds and scares herself. Bottled fed as BF for the first 2 days after birth but I cannot continue. Does anyone have any solutions?

Sleep regression

Hate to be this person as I see so many babies/mamas on here being affected by this sleep regression but my baby is 20 weeks on Thursday and so far, we haven’t really struggled with nighttime sleep, she sleeps through and has done since 10 weeks. We are only really struggling with daytime naps (being super short). Has the nighttime sleep regression been delayed for any one else? Or have I just got really lucky?

Sleep😩

Not sure whether anyone’s in the same boat, but I’m on about week 5 of sleep regression! LO is 4.5 months, his daytime naps are mostly ok, he’s sleeping from around 7:30/8pm until midnight/1am ish, then from 2ish he’s up every hour? Not seeking feeds just cuddling and rocking back to sleep.
He woke up at 5am for an hour and a half this morning, then slept 6:30-7:30, now seems to want a nap again? I follow his cues and he sleeps/ naps on demand. We have a bedtime routine of bath, story and feed.
He’s exclusively breastfed and we’re co sleeping for now to get through this rough patch (he is completely rejecting his NTM crib).

I know that they struggle to tie their sleep cycles together esp early hours of the morning, so it makes sense as to why this is happening but I guess I’m just looking for some advice (I mention it to family but just get the typical “try formula and putting him in his crib, try a higher tog sleeping bag he might be cold”. ) We have tried one bottle of formula before, it didn’t work and tbh I don’t want to give him formula yet!

Thankyou!!

8 week jabs

Little one has his jabs this morning what should I expect!? Any tips? 😭

Refusing milk

My babies nearly 11 months. And suddenly gone off drinking milk before sleeps. Any one else having this issue? He has milk before bed but not half as much as he used to, and sometimes before naps he flat out refuses it. Is this just him getting older?