So done with the attitude from providers…
Had my 13wk appt with the OB for my second pregnancy yesterday. It’s not my first rodeo, so I already know what to expect from this office, but I just hate the aaaaattitude I get from them sometimes!
The nurse mentioned the NIPT blood test when I got to the exam room, so I just said, “oh, no thank you. I’ll be declining genetic testing.” She kinda paused and made a face. Then she said, ok well your chart says you’re due for your pap, so I’ll have you undress … and I said, “oh, no. I’d just feel more comfortable waiting until after I deliver to have my next pap if that’s ok.” She made a face again and said “oh, you’ll be declining that too well ok! Here is a pamphlet on the suggested vaccines for your next appt and the doctor will be in in a minute!”
🙄 wtf is that about. I have every right to decline whatever service they’re offering for whatever reason. Also, what’s with the judgement? So I don’t want the NIPT? Ok, that feels like a pretty normal preference. So I want to wait on a pap? I’m low risk and regularly get them anyway. Feels like a pretty normal choice? Ease up, lady!
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Why don’t get get an OB or midwife that’s more aligned with the type of care you’d like to receive?
I don’t understand going to an OB if you don’t want their care. I’m a crunchy mom, I wouldn’t go to them because that’s not the care I want.
Find a new OB. You should be comfortable and supported.
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Cons:
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Formula
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- Dad can do feeds
- Feel like this will be easier when baby starts nursery at 9m but don't know.
Cons
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