Has anyone talked about birth options with their midwife yet?

They tried to tell me with my first normally the birth plan appointment is 38 weeks, I had him at 35 clueless because nothing had been discussed. I’ve said it need to be done earlier this time and it’s not getting argued with, I’m gonna write a list for my 25 week so I’m not hitting the 3rd trimester completely blind just incase. It is awful they insist on doing it so late especially because I’ve been told with both mine I’d have to deliver at 37 weeks, so before a birth plan appointment :|

I haven’t really spoken about birth preferences yet (currently 20 weeks) other than if I was hoping for a similar birth to last time and where I wanted to deliver (we have a main hospital and smaller birthing unit here). Last time we definitely discussed things earlier than 36 weeks, and I’m glad I did as I gave birth at 37 weeks! I think about 28 weeks we started to have a chat about it so I could look into things etc. Sorry your appointment didn’t go as planned, remember you can always ask to see someone else if you’d prefer! X

I am 19 weeks ftm so not far ahead of you and haven’t discussed birthing options yet, however in terms of your midwife appointments, you are not unreasonable in expecting to feel supported and listened to. If your midwife is making you feel uncomfortable and awkward about asking questions, I would look into how to get a different one. At the end of the day, this is your pregnancy and especially as it’s your first you are bound to have a million questions (as we all do!) and you should be able to ask them. Pregnancy is an amazing thing but it’s scary too! Your midwife is supposed to keep you informed and at ease as much as possible!

My midwife has been amazing, so kind, bubbly and supportive. There’s always the possibility that yours was having a bad day, however the appointments we get are limited so you want to make the most of them.

Maybe have a look at local antenatal classes as there may be other people there that feel the same/have experience with Doulas!

I also haven't had this discussion yet (I'm 17`weeks) I have been researching lots and have started writing down my birth plan and preparing by myself.

I was planning to bringing it up with the midwife around start of 3rd trimester. Does seem a bit early now but 36 weeks also feels awfully late considering anytime after 37weeks is full term.

I've only had two appointments so far too, first one was the book in appointment so it wasn't with the lady who will be my regular midwife. So really only had one with the midwife I'm going to see regularly at first I felt she was a bit stand off ish but then through out the appointment she became more chatty and made me feel reassured definitely helped that my husband is a super social person as he just started asking her questions about random stuff lol

Nope it doesn’t get discussed this early. In my first pregnancy it was discussed at 36 weeks, this time it’ll be around 32 weeks because of my previous c-section

I’ve asked for an elective c section. I asked at my very first appointment - they needed to get a consultant appointment in well in advance and was glad we spoke about it then