Nursery help please!!!!

I’m in the same boat! And you’re not alone! It literally keeps me up at night!

My girl is also ebf, co sleeper, clingy, all for mama. No bottles and isn’t eating much in terms of weaning.

I’ve been thinking about trying a v v gentle Ferber method to at least get her falling asleep independently but I can’t bring myself to do it because I don’t believe in crying it out and I love having her close to me.

I don’t have any suggestions for how to make this better or to lessen the dread as I’m right there with you but know you’re not alone Xxxx

I absolutely feel this so deeply! My honest opinion is if you can afford to, take the extra time with your baby!!! It’s just time you’ll never get back. But if not (like me) then I’m trying to work towards the nursery schedule for her meal times so that that’s at least one thing that feels normal for her. Also taking her out to socialise as often as possible so she is comfortable around new people and children. I cosleep, ebf and she doesn’t have dummy or bottles but when she’s 1+ she won’t need milk as much but I will pump and give the nursery anyway just in case. She’ll actually be starting nursery 2 weeks before her 1st birthday though 😭 … also you should have accrued a good amount of annual leave - have you looked into using that to phase back so you can optimise time with baby while gently returning to work? It is so overwhelming and goes against all of our natural instincts. Overall I am so with you on waiting until they can speak and understand better. It is soul destroying 😭

I used the faded method to help LO get to sleep. It took time but it worked. She now independently falls asleep. But for me, I was the same, didn’t believe in crying it out, she’s not breast fed but is quite clingy, especially to me. So this method I found great. I was always there and never left her side till she was ready for me to do so.
Also a momma that works in a nursery. It sounds crazy, but babies are so different when they’re in a nursery setting with other children around them. They pick up the routine faster than you could ever believe at home. Some things you try at home and don’t work, they do within a nursery setting ☺️

My baby is 8 months. Also EBF and we part co-sleep and feed to sleep but he can do naps transfered to his cot. Got dad to start doing naps in the baby carrier bouncing him when he was very sleepy and he took to it well. Now dad can do any of the naps. That was my major worry tbh. See if your partner can start rocking baby to sleep for one nap xx

Thought I'd say that I did take a sabbatical break, and used parental leave (you are allowed to take 4 weeks a year I think, and this is a government initative), plus you've generally accrued quite a bit of holiday after maternity leave.
I did not regret taking that extra time with baby, even though it made money a bit tighter - but I know not everyone can have these options.
It's so hard the mum guilt whatever you do!

I feel like I'm being harsh based off all the other comments but your baby won't think you're abandoning them ❤️

I think maybe we overthink it and it’ll be worse for us than it is for them. Babies change a LOT over a few months so you don’t necessarily know how baby will be at that point. Especially as they move on to more solids.
Honestly I feel the same and even though I have 6 months left it haunts me every day and I just want to cry. But I know she’ll have fun and get to spend time enjoying activities with babies her age. Plus I’ll actually have money to do fun things with her, take her out of nursery whenever I have days off, enjoy days out, go on holidays etc.
I’m going to discuss with work going part time and compressing those hours, and my husband will also be compressing hours, so she only has to do 2.5 days per week