Am I the problem here?
My 24 month old has been getting increasingly more clingy and anxious around children and unfamiliar adults. Its at the point where as soon as we drive into the parking area of playgroup he starts melting down. no other child seems to react like this...they may be shy at first but will enjoy after a bit. He has become worse and worse and now even if I force him to go he sits and cries into my neck for the hour.
I keep being told to push him into nursery and eventually he'll get better. My mama heart just cannot do it and it's causing both if us significant distress. Even my partner says he just needs to go and he'll get used to it like other kids. The issue is...i don't think we can measure him by other kids...ive never seen such clinging in any other toddler. Is this my fault because I haven't pushed him? I do come from a very anxious family, enough to believe it may be genetic. I honestly don't know what to do...
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Children are their own unique little people with their own temperaments. You absolutely go child-led. There's no pushing them in to things, if they aren't ready.
My son didn't sleep until he was five and wake up worried if I wasn't there. No amount of pushing him into sleeping through the night was possible. He slept when he was ready to.
Keep providing a safe, healthy attachment and when he is ready he will gain his confidence.
If you want to try nursey, it will be difficult, but it won't push him, it'll probably be a lot harder before it gets better.
Trust your instincts mumma. You know your baby more than others opinions, ignore the unhelpful ones! (Maybe not you're partner but do try and get him on the same page)
Some kids are more outgoing then others and some arnt. Just because somethings come easy to one kid doesn't mean its easy for the next. Your not doing anything wrong your his comfort your his mum. He is eventually going to have to face uncomfortable situations and face the public because thats life. Do you leave him in the care of other people much without you being there ? Xx
He needs to spend more time away from you, you can start gradually.
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Am I the problem here?
My 24 month old has been getting increasingly more clingy and anxious around children and unfamiliar adults. Its at the point where as soon as we drive into the parking area of playgroup he starts melting down. no other child seems to react like this...they may be shy at first but will enjoy after a bit. He has become worse and worse and now even if I force him to go he sits and cries into my neck for the hour.
I keep being told to push him into nursery and eventually he'll get better. My mama heart just cannot do it and it's causing both if us significant distress. Even my partner says he just needs to go and he'll get used to it like other kids. The issue is...i don't think we can measure him by other kids...ive never seen such clinging in any other toddler. Is this my fault because I haven't pushed him? I do come from a very anxious family, enough to believe it may be genetic. I honestly don't know what to do...
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This app is supposed to be for support, expressing opinions and seeking advice and friendship.
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