Undesirable friendships..

There is a family well known in our village for drinking from 10.30am, horrible language to their kids and each other, potential violence and the father is in and out of prison. They have 4 girls and a boy.

My daughter has been in their youngest daughter’s class since she started school and has recently been in a split year class which has 2 daughters in. My daughter is forming a bit of an attachment to the older girl this year and they keep asking to do play dates. I’ve been warned by their next door neighbours not to get involved and from the info I’ve heard, I don’t want my daughter to be at their house (she is 5). There have been incidents of the girls physically fighting each other and other kids they play with.
How do I deter the friendship outside of school ie tell my daughter she can’t do play dates not that they can’t be friends..
I also don’t want it to get back to the parents due to the potential physical repercussions..

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Daycare perfume

Wanted to get some opinions from the general mom community since I’ve gotten mixed feedback from different people in my life.

My three month old recently started daycare as my maternity leave is ending this week. The place is overall wonderful - highly accredited, friendly staff, and teachers that really seem to genuinely care about the kids.

I’ve got no real complaints (though there was mention in the first week that I shouldn’t use duct tape for labeling bottles because it sparked in the microwave, which uh, why was the bottle in the microwave at all?? That’s like the one bottle rule I’ve seen everywhere - don’t heat up bottles in the microwave!) but my son comes home every day smelling very strongly of perfume. It’s been my understanding that strong smells are a real no-no around infants and I’ll admit that I’ve always been sensitive to perfume, but it’s overwhelming. The smell lasts on his head hours after he gets home.

I don’t want to be a curmudgeon and police what these childcare workers wear, but I feel like I should say something? My mom has worked in early childhood development all her life and is aghast that the staff is allowed to wear perfume around kids, but my husband doesn’t think I should say anything since it’s not my place. I generally agree with him and don’t want to ruin our relationship with the staff, but I can’t get over the smell on my kid every night.

What are y’all’s thoughts? Do I get over it? Say something? Help!

Boyfriend saying I’m fat and going out too much.

I’m 10 weeks postpartum and my boyfriend keeps saying when am I going to lose weight. I was a size 8 uk before pregnancy and now I’m a size 10 and only a stone heavier. Which isn’t a big jump. But he says he couldn’t be with someone that was fat. I’m breastfeeding so I need to get my calories in so I can’t go on a complete calorie deficit. Since he’s been saying it I’ve not felt like having sex as hate being naked around him now. Is this what most partners say?

Also if I go out too much in the week. He has a problem with it saying house work needs to be done. Which I do keep on top off. It’s always tidy and clean (He does have OCD). I always make sure he has tea every night. I don’t go out for long but it’s nice to socialise as my boyfriend mostly works 7 days a week. I always use my own money as well even though he says I can take from the joint account. He just feels like he’s working 7 days a week and that I shouldn’t be going out too much (which i don’t feel like I am) I’ll go out some weeks more than others. Am I in the wrong as I don’t know for sure as he is working hard?

Apart from all of that, he’s so good with our daughter and does help in the evening with her. He works hard and does tidy after himself and he rings me on his break. So he’s got a lot more pros than cons but I just wanted to know peoples opinions on it?

How much food is your six month old actually eating if you introduced solids at six months

I see a lot of posts online about baby clearing their plate and while my little one does eat he does not clear his plate. After four /five spoons he is very fussy and refuses - some days we are lucky to get 2 spoons worth .

Just wondering if this is just my baby ?

Diaper Changes?

So, while I was changing my son’s diaper, I started wondering if I don’t change him frequently enough? For starters, we use pamper swaddles, which literally holds onto to pee for EVERRR😅 I can give my son 5oz of water before bed, and he can pee through the entire night (about 10hours) and that pamper would be dragging on the floor full of pee, without a single drop sitting on him. His bum is always dry, even with the fullest diaper! With that being said, he normally gets about 5-6 diaper changes throughout the day… If we’re out for a frequent time, it can change to 4-5 but I try to keep the minimum 5… Is that too little?? He doesn’t get rashes or anything, but i guess since I don’t know the normal, Idk what to look for and ofc as a ftm, im finding random shit to freak out over😅🤦🏾‍♀️