Husband help

He manipulated you to have his kids. Men strikes again. I’m so sorry. I hope you can replace him one day. Definitely a nonchalant person and don’t deserve kids. Job don’t make him a damn man. He sucks. Leaving women to do all the tasks. That’s why women in this generation are opting out from motherhood. Because it always comes down to this. I’ve seen many posts like this already this month. Gives me anxiety too because my partner cares more about money than taking care of children . He only presents to care for them when we are in public or else he will make himself look like a POS. They don’t want that embarrassment. But please when the baby grow up, make him do everything for a pay back. It works.

It should be a team effort any time he’s home. He should be washing bottles, cleaning, etc if you’re nursing and doing diapers and holding baby. Sounds like he’s using the ‘not till I shower’ thing as an excuse. Have you talked to him and told him how you’re feeling? That you’re working a 24 hour a day job and you need him to step up so you don’t lose it? Have him take the baby for 6 hours on a weekend and take a nap at a friend’s house- it’ll give you a break and give him some perspective

My husband is the same way and will refuse to even let me hand off the baby to him without a fight

You are doing WAY too much. Regardless if he works FT, when my man steps in from work he’s my other 2 arms 2 legs 2 eyes. It should be a partnership and not feel like you are a married single mother. Providing isn’t only his job. His job is also to be your husband and to be their father when he’s here. He takes over the baby from 5-8 I do cleaning cooking laundry or 1hr of my nails in that time- doesn’t matter, but I’m hands off w the baby coz he’s there. Also twice a week Tuesdays and Fridays I log out at 6 and go to my 7pm dance classes he actually does bedtime twice a week for my baby but because he does it so often he has no probs settling the baby, I come home to baby asleep and just about to wake for a midnight BF. I didn’t do ANY cooking or cleaning in the first 8w, him and his mum did it all. Posts like this make it obv why some mums cruise through PP w help and support and others are prone to isolation and PPD.

Literally blows my mind that men have kids then don’t want to look after or spend time with them 🤯
The first thing my hubby does is see my son when he gets in! He’s in full on dad mode and now I’m pregnant he’s doing 70-80% of all childcare. When he was a baby it was 50/50 overnight and he took care of all bottles, tons of nappy changes, baths etc. he’s involved in everything. I prob do more of the housework and cooking but he’s decent with that too.
I married a man that WANTED kids & to be a hubby though.