I’m stuck

I left my baby daddy in April bc I was a single parent. I did everything for my son while he just went to work and paid his OWN bills and he called it providing. He was even making me pay half the rent and bills too even tho I wasn’t working and caring for baby 24/7. I did nights, cooking, cleaning, playing, bath time EVERYTHING. So he was able to work. But I didn’t get a dime and had to pay him.. and his family is the EXACT same. They said If I stopped paying rent they would take me to court… I honestly started not liking ppl bc of my bd family. They did not value me AT ALL! I was a full time student taking hard classes and raising my son full time. I was up from 6am-1am most days bc I had to.. That’s not right.. BUT my son wants to go back with his dad and me. Im thinking about it bc Raising a child in a single family household comes with so many cons.. more likely to do drugs, act out, etc. idk what to do. I want my son to be happy but I deserve to be happy too… I’m going to nursing school in January and I can’t imagine being with unsupportive ppl while ur trying to build a career. I would crash out

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I’m sorry your going through this. Stay strong, stand your ground tell him that he needs to man up and pay for the bills obviously nicely so you won’t start a fight and if he does then don’t fight don’t argue you can’t win with a man like that. Yeah you need support is there anyone else who can support you? Or help you with the kid while you’re in school

Sorry you’re going through this I can’t imagine how hard it has been for you. As a child who grew up in a household with both parents who clearly should not have stayed together, I think it did more damage than had my parents separated. You and his father don’t have to be together in order for your child to be happy. I would say stay strong and get his dad to help even if that means putting him on child support.

I'm so grateful as an adult my parents didn't stay together. I didn't understand it as a kid but I'm grateful now.

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