Betrayed and Alone

Move to where you have support. It's more bearable that way and you are not entirely alone.
Unless he starts showing he'll be there to help and actually make efforts, not only if he wants to have sex, then it's not worth relying on him at this point.
You can always review that later in the future.

Sorry you are having to go through this.

Yeah I was married and 6 months pregnant with our second and his baby mama who had his first child called me to tell me that him and her were having an affair for years and they had a secret baby. My son was born Feb 2015, her son July 2015 and my daughter May 2016. What I felt that day was the most surreal disorienting day of my life. I unfortunately though stayed for another 2 years before I finally had the strength to kick him out. But that was the best choice! So I would recommend to you- move to where you have support. You are gonna need it! 🫶🏻

Honestly, go and move to where you have reliable support. I think it’s best not to father than a father who shows little effort towards the baby or your it only gets harder after a baby is in the picture. Look after yourself and the baby. He is not mad you spoke to the woman, he is mad it was exposed. It’s hard for you to see it right now because you are in it, but once you let some time pass and your feelings will pass you will see you made the right decision and be happy you did. I hope this helps 🤗

Move before the baby is born because once the baby is here it gets much more complicated. I'm so sorry this happened but he'll never be the man or dad you both deserve and you said it yourself "he comes over for sex" and "he's never been emotionally safe".

You can do this alone mumma we don't need deadbeat dads.

You got this 💜