Need to vent
Sorry for the rant but I need to get it off my chest to people who hopefully understand my point of view.
My husband works a Mon-Fri job 7.30am- 5.00pm. This week has been their stock take so he's stayed behind Tues, Wed, Fri and worked Saturday. I've got a growth scan booked for Tuesday next week and I've asked him 3 times to come and he says he can't get time off work. And just for context he is the manager at his work.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking he should spare 2 hours to come to the hospital with me?
From my point of view, what if I have the scan and something is wrong? Then I'm by myself and he's over an hour away from the hospital.
Or do I just need to suck it up and go by myself.
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I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all. If you want your husband there with you that’s absolutely okay to want him there. Maybe try to explain to him why it’s important to you - sometimes men just don’t understand or they aren’t mind readers so need everything explained to them.
Hopefully once you’ve told him how you’re feeling he will take the time to go with you
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He needs to step up. This pregnancy isn't just on you. It's his baby too and therefore appointments are also for him to attend to. If he wants a happy family he needs to show up for you and most importantly the baby
I agree with the comment above. Maybe he thinks it's 'just one more appointment'? (Not that there's such thing). It may be helpful to explain more in depth how you feel and that you really need his support - he can remember better what they say. My brain was all over the place during pregnancy and I didn't trust my memory lol
Hope the appointment goes well! 🙂
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Need to vent
Sorry for the rant but I need to get it off my chest to people who hopefully understand my point of view.
My husband works a Mon-Fri job 7.30am- 5.00pm. This week has been their stock take so he's stayed behind Tues, Wed, Fri and worked Saturday. I've got a growth scan booked for Tuesday next week and I've asked him 3 times to come and he says he can't get time off work. And just for context he is the manager at his work.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking he should spare 2 hours to come to the hospital with me?
From my point of view, what if I have the scan and something is wrong? Then I'm by myself and he's over an hour away from the hospital.
Or do I just need to suck it up and go by myself.
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