Potty training

Hey guys I have a 3 years and 9 months old daughter and she is potty trained but yet she only wants to poop in her diaper. I am so frustrated and don’t know what to do. If I won’t put the diaper on she won’t poop for a day or two. I feel like a bad mother.

Any tips please

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Been going threw the same thing with my 3 year old daughter she finally pooped on the potty 2 days in a row I just had to be extremely consistent making her go to the potty every 20-30 mins and can’t have her out of my sight not even for a few mins bc as soon as im not near her she will poop in her underwear its definitely not easy I understand I have a 1 year old and currently pregnant so im so extremely exhausted the best thing that I thing worked is when she finally poops on potty make it like a celebration I gave her a popsicle congratulated her gave her stickers

Yes i think rewarding her for the right thing could help if not already

Do you guys like camping? Maybe a good old reset may help ❤️ might even help seeing mum and dad do it 😂

Hi! I am a new mom but I'm also a preschool teacher for 5 years. And I have potty trained 2.9 to going on 4 year old. The biggest thing is consistency. You need her/him on a schedule to succeed. If you're a stay at home mom. I'd start every 15 minutes take to the bathroom every time. And check. And reiterate poo and pee goes on the potty and ask her "where does poop and pee go" and she should say it back to you. Really emphasize it. And when she does go even if it's pee congratulate her. And you can do a reward system as simple as a sticker every time she goes. And most importantly get rid of the pull ups. I know laundry and accidents but she will get it! And when she does have an accident again tell her "does poop go in our underwear or potty" and she should say "potty" or "poop goes in potty" and you can reply "yes it does, see you know."
I have potty trained so many littles this age. Once she starts going ever 15 minutes I'd slowly stretch it the time

I'd say the first week is 15 minutes and then maybe 30-45 the following. She will get it! Don't give up. Hope it helps my information on it. ☺️

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