is this bad

I mean, if I’m being honest and I truly don’t want to hurt you, but ya I don’t think that’s good. I guess I can’t give a lot of advice as I don’t know what it’s like to have social anxiety or to be an introvert. Maybe therapy?

That's not great. I would start small. Ask questions and let them talk. Talk to them like they're adults. Exposure therapy - the more you do it the easier it gets.

Well communicating is how babies learn. Start small, say "Good morning, it's a sunny day today"

Honestly how?! I have a 4 year old that talks & ask questions CONSTANTLY😅 and my 1 year old isn’t speaking yet but I’m always saying things like ‘let’s go eat, let’s get shoes on, let’s play’ like narrating our day? I also have anxiety but it’s never come between me talking to my kids.

I can’t tell quite what level of ‘not talking’ you mean but I do think it’s sooo different when you’re with them 24/7 vs someone like your mom who would see them for short periods of time. It’s a lot easier to be bubbly and full of things to say and games to play when it’s a short visit! I have my moments but I’m definitely not ms rachel on a day to day basis 😂 my daughter mostly likes to play by herself and always has, and I’m not imaginative and she’s not interested in those kind of games anyway so we don’t play together in that way so we’re not talking to each other continuously and I feel like that’s normal? Obviously we talk plenty and do play together and I teach her stuff etc but it’s not continuous by any means and a decent % of the day is spent not talking.
Unless you literally mean you don’t speak at all?

I'm not here to judge, but being an introvert and having anxiety is not an excuse to not talk to your children. If you can't talk to them. How are they going to feel safe coming to you when they need your opinion or advice your suppose to be their safe space. You need to take yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to them about anything. For example, talk to them about their favourite toys and what they enjoy doing, their favourite foods read a book and then talk about it watch a programme they like and ask them what they enjoyed or who the characters are. Children don't care. What you talk about, they enjoy the interaction and the attention you're giving them.

Yes that's weird and I don't think it's a healthy behavior to have towards your children. Have you done therapy already?

I think it's great that you're being honest and asking for advice. This shows that you care about your children a lot! It might be worth reaching out to your health visitor to ask if there is any support they can offer. My friend had a nursery nurse visit once a week for 4 weeks and she worked with her on playing with her baby. It's really hard for you if that doesn't come naturally to you so some support like that might be helpful. If you don't feel like you can reach out to them, maybe try looking for YouTube videos or podcasts that can give you some ideas. Also, watching a show like Ms Rachel will give you great ideas for songs you can sing with your children, watch it on your own if you don't do screen time, reading to them is great interaction too. You've got this 😊

I’m on the same page as you. I try to ask questions & let them lead the conversation to see what else they have on their mind. Not saying I expect to have a Ted talk with them 😅 but I do keep it small.. asking simple, curious questions, reading, drawing with them does help keep them engaged as long as they feel like it 😆

Hold up maybe everyone is misinterpreting this post . The important questions is are your providing for your kids ? Now I have mistakes we done to much tv regarding choa co melon. Idk how to spell it with out directly in front of me with my oldest . I struggled with finding play activities that she enjoys . Yet I was singing on the songs tv to her . I was singing to her . I was telling her goodnight moon. It depends on people look at this are you saying words at all . Sometimes you’re truly exhausted. Really you are talking to your kids . Missing the little things . My 3 year old is a level 3 autistic so I can only say some things. Some she doesn’t under stand . It depends on what you mean. I’m here for you. I don’t think you’re a bad mom . It seems like you’re trying .maybe people is not understanding this post

I love talking to my son. He just babbles his replies but it makes me laugh!!

I always had anxiety that was worsened by Covid (isolation) and being a mom (hormones/emptions) but I try to use parenting as a time to work on that and finding myself again. The way I see it, if I can be myself and be dumb or crazy in front of anyone who won’t judge me and will love me anyways it’s my kids. It’s still hard but it does help, a lot. I talked my sons ear off and he was speaking very well very early. I always get compliments on how smart he is and well spoken. I just say whatever is in my brain. What I’m doing and why. Whatever thought process I have, I say so he learns to think things through and actually understand why things happen or are the way they are. Which ended up helping a lot when it comes to saying no, if I explain why he is a million times less likely to get mad because understanding why makes him more him more understanding in general. Don’t be afraid to sound dumb just say whatever you’re thinking. They’ll accept you for whatever you give tbh.

Why don’t you talk to your kids? I don’t think being an introvert is a good excuse. My husband is introverted but always makes it a point to talk to our almost two year old and 7 month old. He plays as much as instructs.

I don’t think it’s good at all, I have really bad social anxiety and panic talking to people but I nonstop talk to my son I narrate everything that’s happening, I ask him questions, and I just say what’s on my mind. I don’t think have anxiety is an excuse especially after 4 years of being a mom

What if you try to narrate everything you're doing? Like saying "now mommy is cooking food" ect?