Partner leaving early in the morning

My partner leaves early in the morning stating he has to sort a few things out but never tells me what he's doing. I'm left 7 months pregnant to look after our 9 month old son every day for hours and when I send him a message I don't get a reply for hours. I don't know what to do or how to handle this as when I bring it up and tell him its unfair that he gets to go off and do what he wants and I'm left to handle everything alone. He says he's tired and unwell so when he comes back he either wants to sleep or go on his playstation as he needs a break. When I bring up I don't get a break ever he turns it ll around. I don't know the point of this but it's just making me feel a certain way and if I speak then he says I'm wanting an argument or he just leaves and I don't see him for sometimes days.

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Whats the point of maintaining the relationship?

Get up and leave earlier than him and leave him with the baby. He'll quickly see what being tired is all about. Most men want the daddy title without the actual responsibility! So sorry to hear this.

Just work on keeping yourself sane. This is such a vulnerable time for you and your babies need you in the best headspace… he sounds like he’s struggling to manage himself and as unfortunate it is you don’t have that same luxury

I have a similar situation. My daughter is 1 and im due December with our son.

My partner works away all week, Sunday evening to Saturday morning.

I have no help with my daughter through the week and he goes days without even making a video call to see her claiming hes tired or poorly .

When he is home he lays on the sofa and " watches her play " he will nap with her but she's now coming to me for that now not him more and more.

He will change a nappy now and then.

He has started disappearing into the garage on a Saturday all day i mean 8 am till 10 am Sunday and last weekend 5pm till 2 am . Sunday he sat at the dining table with her in her highchair and while she was shouting dada and whining he was looking through social media . I called him out for ignoring her and said while away for work you could scroll as much as you like so whats so important right now . All i got was "what I do on my phone while Im away has nothing to do with you" and oh i cant even go on my phone now .

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starting and then a few other things demanded my attention so he ended up watching 2 hours of TV. I feel like an awful mum but on the other hand I'm thinking but today he also : had a swimming lesson with me in the pool, had lunch in the cafe together, played in the park together, cleaned the kitchen cupboards (he asked to fo this) played in the garden (digging in the mud and riding his bike). We'll be going to do the food shop together next and after dinner will be playing together then bathtime and stories. On other days we do painting and colouring and baking and puzzles, the only time the TV is on all day is when one or both of us are poorly. Is this sort of balance really so bad for him??

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But husband has drank loads but after the event wants to go out out. It’s our first night out together I’ve drove so he could drink he got to see all his friends at this even he got to sing dance and drink with them.

It was around 10 and I had said let’s go home to our baby he said he wants to go for 1 pint and asked if I’ll be okay driving home myself. I said “we are going home you’re not going out now” I get in to my car upset and he comes over opens the door and is like it’s just one drink.

I leave crying and racing away. 3 hours later he’s ended up elsewhere didn’t even see if I got home okay or if I’m just okay In general. I wasn’t trying to be controlling.

He had pre drinks at 5 and drank the whole time at the event. I wanted the rest of the night with him.

This has really affected me because we’ve been married for 2 years and all I’ve ever asked for was communication and he’s mocked that.

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