Switching nurseries

Looking for some advice/experiences from anyone who has switched nurseries.

Our little boy has been at his nursery since November and, honestly, we feel like we’re constantly being frustrated by something. We’ve reached the point where we’re viewing another nursery tomorrow, but I’m feeling a bit nervous about whether moving him is the right decision.

A few examples of what we’ve experienced:

• He’s had quite severe/bleeding nappy rash on several occasions, which we feel has been because his nappy hasn’t been changed often enough.
• We suspect he may have a fruit or milk intolerance, and we’ve just found out that he’s been having around 8 cups of milk a day and no water, which we were completely unaware of.
• The nursery has closed three times because of hot weather, but we’ve still had to pay for those days.
• He’s been bitten by another child multiple times, and on those occasions, as well as other injuries, staff haven’t seen what happened.
• And probably the biggest thing for me - we get virtually no photos or updates about what he’s actually doing or learning. Most days it’s just “he’s had a good day” and “he’s eaten well”. I feel like we’re missing out on such a big part of his development.

I appreciate that nursery isn’t going to be perfect, and I completely understand that staff can’t see everything that happens when looking after lots of toddlers. I also don’t want to be that parent who expects constant updates.

But when you add everything together, we’ve just lost confidence in the nursery and I’m wondering whether we’re better off moving him somewhere that feels like a better fit for us.

Has anyone else switched nurseries after already being settled somewhere? Did you regret it, or were you glad you made the move?

And if you have moved, what did you look for/ask about when viewing the new nursery? Would love to hear your experiences! ❤️

p.s the new nursery is closer, cheaper and has air con 😂

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