not feeling like I’m gonna be a good mum

You are not the only one I think every women goes through this as the beginning. You question everything are you eating right, sleeping right. As long as you love that child thats all that matters. My little boy surprised us coming at 32+1 he was 5lb 6oz is now 3 and living life but for months I blamed myself was it something I did was it because I was overweight, I was working 2 jobs still so did I push myself too much. Doctors ran the tests it was spontaneous labour and we said he just wanted out early. We're currently trying for our second and I'm dreading another preemie even though it's like 20-30% likelihood of it happening again. It's a scary change in your life being pregnant but it's also one of the best and enjoy it, Every little flutter, kick, craving because when you meet that little person it's the best thing ever.

Please be kind on yourself. The hormones make you feel crazy stuff. You will be an amazing mum. I have adhd and let me tell you I definitely have never been organised, been on top of housework and I’m still not (defo better) but that doesn’t diminish how good of a mum I am. Housework doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things and you will get better because you kind of have to.. don’t overthink it. Take one day at a time

My baby was a surprise and I haven’t had a very good routine before either. If you would have a routine it wouldn’t matter as it goes out the window straight away as you have a newborn 😅 they don’t know or follow any schedules and it takes a couple of months to establish one at all. And when you finally think you figured it out everything will change again. Don’t be harsh on yourself. All that baby needs is love and attention as long as you make sure her needs are met like she is fed, changed and has lots of peace and sleep you’re good. Having and rising a baby is a learning curve. You can learn how to be more organised along the way. 🫶🏼