Night feeds and changes

we’re more emotional than men and if you try to explain to him, i feel like it’ll go in one ear and out the other.. i feel like you just need to tell him to do it. like maybe you do the first, then when it’s time for next feed/change. wake him up and tell him to do it.
if he’s been letting you do it all, he’s not gonna suddenly change and think to help. if anything , he’ll see nothing wrong and think you’re fine especially if you don’t say anything! don’t let that happen bc you’ll start having resentment towards him🥲

I absolutely agree. You have to demand it cause they honestly don’t know any better. And I think as women, we want our men to be mind readers. We just gotta say what we need straight up cause if not, he will never think it’s an issue. It’s not dramatic or hormonal tbh. You’re right for wanting these things.

Just tell him. But also — men hear things at a completely different level than we do. We hear the cries and loud sounds.. they hear the low sounds.. so don’t be surprised if he still doesn’t fully wake up.
We tried 2 nights of our son being on his side and I still had to nudge him to fully wake to tend to the baby. It’s a biological response. So yes, he should help / participate but he just might need a firm talking to and you actually getting him up to do it!