Weird or normal behaviour?
I’m not sure if I have a right to be upset over this, my baby is almost five months, in this time, his side of the family have been over twice to our house, I got zero messages from his side of the family to me asking how me and baby are doing,
We are kind of expected to travel to them instead, when visiting them, my partners sister had mentioned to my partner about taking our baby out for a walk, it really hurt me cause I’m on mat leave, I hardly leave the house, so why not message me asking if me and my baby want to come out for a walk, to me it’s weird to want to have “alone time” with my baby without me there for “bonding”, especially when my notification have been 0 asking about baby. She’s only 4.5 months old, I just don’t feel like she needs “bonding time” away from her mother.
I’m not saying it all has to be about me, but it hurts cause I had a horrible pregnancy, I almost died during labour with the amount of blood I lost and it’s kinda like ‘well my jobs over’ and tossed to the side. I feel like my baby is being treated like a family dog instead of MY baby.
There has been a few little things that have annoyed me in the past with his sister, and never in a million years would I let my baby go out on a walk without me there, that might be post partum anxiety and I might be called controlling or too protective but I couldn’t care. Last time we were over at their house, the sisters child was jumping around the sofa whilst she was holding my baby and his foot was inches away from my 2 month old babies head at the time and she had said nothing, I just don’t feel like my baby would be safe. Plus her and her boyfriend are constantly shouting and swearing and that’s not the type of environment I’m wanting to leave my baby in.
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I would feel the exact same way. You are your babies protector- anyone else be damned
My fiancé’s direct family (his parents, his brother and his wife) haven’t met (and atp probably won’t ever meet) my daughter. She’s 1 month old and they completely changed how they treated me the minute I told them I was pregnant. They were MIA the whole pregnancy, we went no contact and even after the baby was born, they haven’t reached out. They asked him once or twice how she is doing but nothing about me. It amazes me how some people expect to have access to a child when they walk all over the mom. You’re completely entitled to feel however you feel, even if other people say otherwise.
It’s normal to be over protective of your baby . If you don’t feel comfortable with your child with other people alone don’t do it . Keep your baby close . And when you can go for walks with your baby . It’s good to get some air
You habe every right to be crazy. No one cam tell you wjat to do with your child. You set the standards and the rules. If they can't follow them then do away with them. I will never let anyone take over the care of my baby.
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